Hi there! Hoping for some advice!
My fiancé and I got engaged recently and we are getting married next year! I am so excited, however, we are having some issues with the guest list.
My parents are paying for the wedding and I have a large family of whom I am required to invite. However our guest list “limit” is 150. My FH initially gave a number that was well within the 150 limit and to get there we unfortunately needed to cut many of his friends.
My FH dad recently had a talk with him and said essentially all the cutting and limits to the guest list isn’t reflective of a happy occasion such as a wedding. And his dad has about 20 friends he’d like to invite. Not to mention my FH’s brother has friends he wants to invite as well.
My mom has been really insistent about being budget conscious (which is totally fine! I am very grateful that they are paying for the wedding!!) however she got very upset when I told her that FH’s brother had friends he wanted to invite ( this was previous to this new situation) as it’s not the brothers wedding but mine and FH. I told her that it wasn’t really fair that my list was so large due to required invites and thus my FH family was limited as to their list. She then said the list cannot exceed 150.
My FH family is happy to pay for all the guests that exceed the 150 limit and have offered multiple times to help pay for the wedding as well as pay for all the friends they invite, whether it’s beyond the limit or not. I’ve told my mom about these offers and she’s refused them saying they’ll figure out a way. My dad is a traditional guy but I don’t think she’s brought their offers to him, but I can’t be sure either way. My dad has also been very open to inviting more people but im not sure if my mom is putting pressure on me just because she always does in general or there are secret marital conversations going on that she’s trying to communicate to me.
I’ve yet to bring this new situation to my parents and I am looking for some different perspectives! Thank you very much!!
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