Ashley
Expert October 2021

Guest list- How do you stop adding people

Ashley, on February 18, 2020 at 7:35 PM Posted in Planning 1 10
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Goal is 130 guests. The short story is that I will have 1 family member at my wedding, and my other half has about 3/4 of the guest list covered with his family and friends of. I would say 98% of our list is finalized, but I keep coming across people that I would like to invite. How do y'all stop adding to your list. Part of me wants to just invite the other 15 or so people I'm thinking of and let fate handle it. I mean... They're not ALL going to come... right?

Weddings in October, guess I could win the lottery by then.. Smiley xd

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Latest activity by Ashley, on February 20, 2020 at 8:28 AM
  • Megan
    Super October 2021
    Megan ·
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    Lol we did the same thing. We started with 150 decided to invite 160 after we forgot a few people. Came up with a list that we wanted to invite then FH mom wanted to invite all her friends. We told her no, but she insisted and offered more money to pay for those extra people. Long story short we ended up sending out save the dates to 180 last week! I’m still freaking out about it and how much more it will cost if they all come, but praying that some people won’t come so we get back down to our 150. It’s so hard to cut people and stop inviting. Our wedding is in October too! Good luck girl this was the hardest part for us! We could have easily gone over 200 if everyone we wanted was coming
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  • Theadra
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    Well if you don’t have a budget and are willing to invite everyone and their momma , you shouldn’t have nothing to worry. Now if you want it to be intimate and invite the closest people to you , then it should be just that. Remember , the worse is to invite a bunch of people in hopes of them not coming . Chances are a lot of people can or might not come and you don’t want to look at some of them and wish they didn’t, when you did invite them .
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  • L
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    Leslie ·
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    I had a meltdown earlier in the week when the FH gives me a list for wedding invites and he’s added about 25 people who weren’t accounted for previously plus the few that I added in when he had less STD. So now it’s over budget by huge numbers. I’m praying to wedding gods that being Mother’s Day weekend people will just say no. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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  • C
    Dedicated September 2021
    Conny ·
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    I’m on the same boat. I have about 105 sent out. Our max capacity is 100 so I’m 5 over not including kids. I have a plan B list of 10 more people who we can only invite if we have 20 declines so we can be at our desired count of 90ish.
    The extra 10 I love and want to send them anyway but I just cannot do so until we have sufficient RSVPs ‘no’s’ back. We just had 2 so far and I was low key happy lol Smiley smile
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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    Gahhh I’ll pray for you lol
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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    Omg same! Like if I could invite all the people I genuinely liked and would love to be there, I’d need 3 more jobs AND a couple more side hustles. I’m hoping for some declines but FH says “people really like us so I wouldn’t count your chickens.” Way to pop my bubble, guy. 😂😭
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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    Girl I wish I didn’t have a budget. Lol realistically we’re near where we want to be, but I’m totally hoping some people won’t be able to make it. Not that I don’t want them to come. There’s no way of wording that the way I want it to be lol
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  • Taylor
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    Our venue can hold 300 but there's a price break at 200 (I literally don't know why... they don't do anything differently). We paid for 200 because we thought we'd invite around 220 and quite a few of those people live across the country. When we mailed out invites, we were at 248. I am PRAYING that at least 48 of them decline. It's semi destination (over 3 hours away for most) so hopefully that deters them... If not, we'll be forking over the additional money.

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  • Kayla
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    I am in the same boat, but only because it seems like literally ever single on of FH cousins (there's like a million of them) keep getting engaged! We started at 200 and we are now up to 215. We already sent STDs, so we're going with it. But man, 15 people adds up quick!

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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    Girl I feel you! lol Sounds like you'll have a list of weddings to go to in your future too lol

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