Guest List help!

I think 2 months is a little harsh, a lot of people have work and things going on in their lives and don’t always keep in touch like they’d like to.

I did 1 year

I did a year also.

We also did 1 year

I go without talking to some of my friends for two months pretty frequently. That seems a bit dramatic. I think one year is fair.

We did 1 year. If I did 2 months, we would have had 5 people at our wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes 2 months is very harsh! I definitely wasn’t gonna do 2 months. I think I’m gonna go with 1 year.

I didn’t follow a hard and fast rule like that because I think every relationship is so different and personal. We only used that concept as a barometer for people we were on the fence about (friend of mine that fell off the radar, H’s high school crowd etc). There was definitely a person or two that we probably hadn’t seen in over 2 years but still felt really important to invite, and we were really very very glad to have them there, so regardless of the timeline definitely think of it as a guideline rather than a rule.


2 months sounds really unreasonable though, there are many people very dear to me that I don’t make contact with quite that often. 2 months would eliminate people like : most of my aunts and uncles, my own grandmother, my SIL.
I think a more helpful guideline I’ve heard is instead of time, consider “would I take this person out to dinner?” // go out for dinner // invite to my home for a meal. I think that’s a more effective barometer. Ex: before my wedding, it’d probably been 3 years since I’d seen my aunt from across the country. It’d been about the same amount of time since I saw one of my closest old high school friends . Similar levels of contact in the meantime (birthday messages and catch up, nothing more). Timeline rule would nix both from the list. But instead I thought “if they were in my city, would I clear my schedule to grab a meal with?” — for my aunt, the answer was absolutely . For my high school friend? It was a “ ehh, probably not. I still care about her, and wish her well and would be happy to give her a quick hug, but I don’t think we could get through a meal together without it being mostly awkward , given the levels of drifting apart over the years” and that’s how I drew the line in that invite

We did 1 year! I think that is the perfect medium for you!

We decided on if we haven't talked to, or haven't seen them, within the last year we would not invite them.

View Quoted Comment Haha that's funny I came up with 4 and that included myself