Guest list fears

I would just count on alot of people not wanting to come because they work the next day. Maybe try a Sunday wedding or a Friday

2 of my friends did a Thursday wedding and many showed up. Then mentioned it was not ideal for everyone but ideal for them. My advice decide what works best for you and your fiancé and with enough notice the important people who can make it will make it

I’m planning a Thursday wedding. It isn’t until next October, so I’m going to probably do Save the Dates and Christmas Cards together, so it’s about 10 months notice.

We’re only having a dinner reception with under 60 people, adults only (because we’re having it at a brewery). And 80% invited are family members. If they can’t make it, they can’t make it and I understand.

To me, the most important thing is marrying the love of my life.

Ask your VIPs if they’ll attend. If you’re having a smaller guest list of close friends & family, your chances are better. If you’re inviting 100+ semi-friends, cousins & co-workers, those not super-close to you might not attend a weekday wedding.

We had a 💯% turnout for our Monday-night DW, but we only had 15 guests and verified the date before we booked our venue.

I'm considering a Friday or Sunday wedding and my mother is all over me about the same thing! I told her that FH and I are selecting the date that works best for us and if people want to be there they will and if they don't I'll still end up married to the LOML and I won't notice!

While having a weekday wedding is not ideal for those who work a 9-5 it’s not a dealbreaker. Especially if you give your guests enough notice to plan ahead. Keep in mind some people won’t be able to make it but those who matter will make sure to be there. Plus a smaller guest list can help cut costs as well. You can look into a Friday or Sunday but if Thursday works best for you then stick to that! You can send out save the dates online (evite.com for example) which asks guests to rsvp and that’ll give you an idea of how many guests can make it on a Thursday. Good luck!

Clearly, you can do what you want, but I'd be careful about the "You do what YOU want, because those who matter/love you will be there" expectation. I see that a lot on here, and I think it can be naive and potentially set up expectations that might later result in hurt feelings. With any wedding date, I can love the couple to the moon, but I may not be able to attend. I think that possibility is even greater with less traditional wedding choices like weekday weddings, DW, etc. This is absolutely a "know your crowd" issue. If the majority of your guests will be friends and co-workers for whom a Thursday is the best choice, then it sounds good. However, if there are potentially a number of other important guests, like extended family with more traditional work schedules or people who will have to travel, a Thursday night wedding may mean a lot of those people will decline. Only you & FH can decide what the impact might be on your most important VIPs and then decide what you're willing to live with. I know it's not easy to balance all the conflicting issues, so good luck figuring it out.

I've seen some have weddings on a weekday and the show out would be a lot but she is right in the sense that some won't make it

She is wrong! I am getting married on a Thursday as well because of costs, but really because we wanted to be married on our anniversary 9.24.2020. The people who are truly your friends and family will take the day off and attend. If you give them proper notice and save the dates and such they will attend.

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly how I feel. We made a Facebook event letting people know now that it will be on a Thursday and we are going to send out the formal save the dates in the next month or so, that way people will have about 10 months to plan for it as well as people who have to put in vacay time at the beginning of the year are aware of the date.

This is kind of a long shot, but is there a weekend available that would cause people to take friday off anyway? Like the thursday before a holiday weekend like memorial day? Just be aware that there are many who won't be able to take the day off, and be cautious about the "people who love you will take the day off". Do you live in an area with lots of traffic? Having a week day wedding also adds that level of complication as well. Ultimately, it is your wedding, and you should get to do what works best for you. Ask your VIPs and go from there.