Guest list drama

With Covid going around you'd think people would be more understanding smh. I'm sorry you're dealing with drama so close to your wedding.

View Quoted Comment Ya! u would think. everyones true colors are really starting to show

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It's selfish smh. Hopefully they will grow to be more understanding

Yes!!! the most important part to remember is, invite who YOU want. this is your wedding and you aren’t defined by someone else’s opinion. you have one day that’s yours, own it

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I have had some hurt feelings, but nothing crazy. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I just try and explain to them that I had to cut 70% of my guest list.

Oh ya! My future in laws were almost not going to come to the wedding amd mentioned it 2 weeks before our weddinf. It caused a huge rift between my fiancé and I. So we sat down and went through all our options. We decided that they can social distance and wear masks or we can have another small wedding for his family a few weeks later because its not fair to only cut my family because I have more family and close people. I have dreamed of this day forever and having my loved ones be there and I was not going to let people tell me who i can and cannot invite. They eventually said they will come to the original wedding because the rest of his family could care less about how many will be there. So only his parents were making a fuss. We only gave the two options because I knew they would try and bully is into what they wanted and its our weddinf not theirs. Good luck!

Not yet. We're cutting our list from 130 to 30-40. That smaller group is made up of immediate family, some extended local family, and the wedding party. We felt that was the fairest way to downsize, rather than picking and choosing people.

Some of my favorite people in the world will not be there with us, and it really sucks, but so far everyone has been very understanding. Before we even officially downsized, people were reaching out to us saying they'd totally get it if we could no longer invite them.

Yes. We decided to severely limit our guest list to reduce the risk and the drama. It turns out that while you can lower the risk of spreading COVID, drama is unrestrainable. Some people understood the situation but were upset that we didn't invite them via zoom, one was upset enough that she barely spoke to us at my shower. I kept reminding myself that they'll be invited to a celebration eventually and it's not their wedding, so they don't get to dictate the guest list. Also, it was really important to me to have our wedding be device free (other than the photographer and anyone who needed to look at notes during speeches), which meant I didn't have to think about people who weren't there and I'm so glad we did that. I'll obviously have to deal with these people at some point, but I would highly recommend sticking with your decision and keeping your guests off their phones/social media so you can enjoy your day in peace!