Guest list dilemma

You shouldn’t be the one deciding who from
his family is invited, that’s his call. The smartest thing to do is invite in circles. Invite the aunts and uncles, but not cousins. Don’t invite some cousins and not others.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree! You should agree on a guest limit together and decide how many people that leaves for each side’s family and friends then you should be in charge of cutting your own friends and family.

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I totally agree

We are considering a Friday wedding partly to cut costs. People who don't really want to come (and we invited out of etiquette) will also be less likely to attend.

I was writing the question as us speaking as a unit, he is not good at decisions like that so I am doing most of the leg work.. we cannot decide because he is close with his cousins and we cannot cut half out it just would look messed up

View Quoted Comment What about an adults only wedding?

View Quoted Comment What would that be considered? 18 and over or 21? Only problem is our goddaughters are young and we want them there and one of my cousins who is disabled has to be with his mother but has 3 other siblings.. so it gets tricky

View Quoted Comment For our wedding, we invited those over 18. The only excepts were the children in the bridal party. One of the groomsmen also has a 6 month old which he brought even though we didn't want babies there. Most people will say baby's are another exception but that is normally if they are breast feeding and their daughter wasn't. Typically you either invite all children or none so if there are certain children you want to invite and they aren't part of the bridal party then it sounds like not inviting children is an option. I would suggest writing a complete list everyone you'd like to invite then I would sit down with your fiance and go over the list. The problem it sounds like is that you both have a lot of people that you want to invite so I would figure out what you can afford to spend.