Guest list cut down

Do not do an A/B list. People will never tell you they are upset by anything but they do talk to others.


Always prepare for 100% attendance. And find a venue to fit your guest list, not the other way around. Since that is already done along with sending save the dates to all..you are in a pickle. Couples always forget to include themselves in the capacity count.
Since you are in Canada, what are the Covid restrictions? If you have to maintain social distancing of 2meters(?)/6ft then that will require you cut several people.
While it is rude to uninvite guests who have already received a save the date and finding a larger venue is not an option, you are going to cut someone. Start with people you really wouldn't miss if they were there and don't care about you, along with parents' coworkers/fellow churchgoers/similar people such as family and friends from years past you no longer hang out with for any period of time. Work your way down the list until the most important people are there. Lots of people have huge families but they aren't close to every single one.

Unfortunately, everyone you sent a STD to must also receive an invitation. The only way around this is downsizing your wedding considerably, due to Covid, and just having immediate family. Your only other option is to change venues.

Sending out invitations 7 months in advance is not good. People lose them &/or forget to RSVP. Generally 6-8 weeks is when you should send them. As you have out of country guests, I would shoot for 8 weeks. At the 5 week mark is when you track down those last few people who haven’t RSVP’d so you can turn in your final headcount at the 4 week mark.

So update ladies! My coordinator did not realize that I had the additional room and she emailed me this morning and both rooms together fit 350 guests max. This makes me feel a little better so once I know what is going on with COVID that might change/not change things. (sigh of relief for now). As far as the invitations we are going to send them out 2-3 months before the wedding, I didn't realize how they were not to be done so far ahead of time, thanks for the input ladies!

Girl I just cut our 240 person guest list to 96. It's doable. I have no regrets and blamed it on COVID. For the ones that received a STD and will not receive an invitation, I will deal with that when the problem arises. Again I will blame COVID and venue restrictions, which is partially true. Venue is operating at 75%. The first people I cut were my out of country family members. They technically can't travel back to their country without restrictions anyway so that was easy. Plus with this "new strain", it just made sense for them not to travel.

I then cut the estranged friends and distant cousins. Then next I made a decision that my grandparents health and safety was way more important than a busted wedding due to 2x COVID postponement. SO the 65+ went next. And since I was over spending a ton of money on stationary I personally called the remaining guest and personally asked were they planning to attend. From that call I was able to cut another 20-30 who were hard no's. Invitations go out next week and thankfully our venue needs the number 12 days before so it is going to work out fine. Good luck to you! When in doubt blame COVID!

View Quoted Comment In this case where your guests are adding random people, you get ahold of them immediately and tell them point blank that no one except those whose names are on the invites will be allowed in due to space limitations.

Wow! Gotta read this bc this sounds eerily familiar.. had 260 initially, fmil already made a seating chart for her guests/fam, Covid isn’t gonna let us have 260 so we’ve cut it back to 180, but save the dates went out months ago for our fall/end of summer 2021 wedding