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Just Said Yes September 2022

Guest list change after change the dates sent

Emma, on January 3, 2022 at 12:51 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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So I’ve currently moved my wedding three times because of COVID. Our original wedding date was 05/02/2020, then 09/20/2020, then 06/20/2021, and now finally 09/10/2022. I’ve sent out save the dates, invitations for my original wedding date, and three change the dates with each new date on the card. Because my wedding is now 2.5 years after our original date there are some people on the list who I haven’t talked to in almost two years and my fiancé and I have both made new friends that we would like to invite to the wedding. Our ballroom capacity is 220 and we have already invited 220 guests. Is it rude to not invite people we have already sent change the dates to make room for other guests? I don’t want to offend anybody, but I also now have close friends who I can’t invite. I’m sure that I will receive some No RSVP’s and be able to invite extra people but just want to get some outside advice.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on January 8, 2022 at 9:30 AM

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Jasmine S. · on January 3, 2022 at 7:50 AM
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You wouldn't be the only one in this situation after so many postponements. Have those old/former friends reached out and said they're excited to come? Or has it just been radio silence? If you haven't heard from them, I think you could get away with just not sending an invitation and then all parties can quietly forget about it.
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Emma · on January 3, 2022 at 3:29 PM
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I haven’t heard from them since my bridal shower in February 2020. I’m just worried if I ever run in to them after it will be a mess, but I know if I was in there shoes I wouldn’t be offended.
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Jasmine S. · on January 3, 2022 at 3:59 PM
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I would not send in invite. That's well over two years. If they approach you and ask, then you can re-visit the idea, but that seems unlikely at this point.
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Jacks · on January 8, 2022 at 9:30 AM
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Technically, a save the date is as good as an invite. You might risk offending people. The only really good way to do this is to cancel the original event and rebook a smaller one.
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