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Nicole
Dedicated August 2021

Guest List after Covid-19

Nicole, on October 29, 2020 at 6:54 PM Posted in Planning 1 6
Okay guys, can’t be the only person having this issue.


I have the “disease to please” and have a hard time saying “no” which makes some of this stuff pretty hard for me. Sad to admit. Our guest list was drafted in fall ‘19 and our wedding has been postponed another year out to late summer ‘21. People have broken up, gotten into relationships, had babies, moved, etc. I had a system that I was comfortable with in determining whether or not someone would have a +1, but now that so many people have had personal life changes, it gets a little more challenging. Any advice or ideas for what other people are doing?
For reference, my original system I would use was to ask myself the following questions in determining whether or not someone would have a +1:Are they in the bridal party?Are they engaged/married/in a serious relationship?Are they traveling long distance and need to find lodging?Do they know fewer than 10 people outside of the bride and/or groom?

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Latest activity by Vicky, on November 1, 2020 at 1:18 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I used those same questions in deciding who got a +1 for my wedding. Anyone in a relationship/married/dating/engaged/etc, anyone in the wedding party, and anyone who won't know many people at the wedding. I plan to stick to that for my new date (we postponed to 2022), but so far, not many changes to our guest list.


    I would suggest waiting until closer to when you'll send out invites to see where things are and who's in a serious relationship at the time you're ready to send out invites, and decide at that time.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Well people in relationships don't get a +1 technically, they are invited as a social unit.


    We didn't give the single people +1s. Just easier that way.
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated October 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    My rule of thumb is only spouses get invited as +1s.

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  • M
    Dedicated June 2021
    Mm126 ·
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    We're looking at our guest list, in case we need to cut it due to COVID restrictions. We def don't want to deal with that awkward mess, so the first place we looked was in the Plus One category. We decided to offer it to everyone at first, but now we're looking at not offering Plus Ones to single people.. if they happen to be in a relationship by the wedding, I figured they would ask if they can bring a guest, and we can go from there (depending on restrictions, declines, etc).

    Of course, anyone married/engaged/in a relationship/bridal party gets a Plus One.

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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Wow, seriously?

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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
    Vicky ·
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    Anybody in a a relationship should be invited with their SO. It's up to them, not you, to define how serious their relationship is. These are not considered Plus Ones, by the way. A Plus One is a generic guest given to single people and they are not required, though nice to give, especially in certain circumstances e.g. when the person has to travel.

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