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Betty, on September 1, 2022 at 10:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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Hi everyone! I sent out emails to family members gathering info like addresses and phone numbers and included that more information would follow. I haven’t told any of them a date yet as I plan to send out save the dates. I later decided that a few people I inquired info for, I no longer want to invite. Is it rude that I already sent those emails out and now will just not send them a save the date or email? Should it be something I need to directly address with them? I don’t want to cause any fuss in the family but I feel like I pulled the trigger too soon in sending out the emails before I really sat and figured out who I truly wanted to be there and not just cuz they were family and I felt obligated.

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Latest activity by Taylor, on September 4, 2022 at 2:31 PM
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    Veronica ·
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    Yes I think it would be rude. I think you really should have thought about it before you sent them a request for their information. At this point I think you should proceed with inviting them otherwise you will not only come off as rude but you also risk offending them.
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    Agree with Veronica. There is no polite way of rescinding a forthcoming save the date. You’ll have to follow up with one or the relationships could be compromised.
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  • Erin
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    Erin ·
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    Sorry, there’s really no best way to take those back 😬 It will result in broken relationships.
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  • Jacks
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    Jacks ·
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    Yep, it's a faux pas to tell people they're invited then not follow through.

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    Elycia ·
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    If they're not people who you are truly vehemently against inviting for a good reason I would say that you can't really take this back. Obviously if they will put you over venue capacity or will truly cause detriment to your day you dont need to invite them still, but you need to be prepared to hurt/lose the relationship if you go that direction.

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  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    If you gathered them and told them it was for the wedding, then yes, it is a faux pas. When I was collecting some, I did it with the excuse of Christmas cards which i did send. But some of those people did not get wedding invites when we trimmed down our list.

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    CM ·
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    That's unfortunate and I think will likely lead to hurt feelings if they knew this was about the wedding. Unless you are now contemplating a very intimate affair, I would plan your budget to host the people who were told they would receive an invitation and cut back elsewhere. If you are cutting way back then I would apologize and let them know that the wedding you were originally planning is not happening.

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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2022
    Taylor ·
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    How much do you like these people lol cause they might not like you too much after this
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