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Guest invited a guest.

Alyssa, on July 9, 2019 at 11:23 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 11

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So, I'm starting this off saying the issue itself has been resolved I'm just annoyed a little because they know we're on a tight budget.

So the best man is married, his wife is coming. They decided to invite her sister (fiance knows her, I've only met her like two or three times).

Best man has been helpful so if they asked we probably would've said okay. His wife knew he'd be busy and wanted to feel more comfortable. I think she asked him, he said he's sure it's fine, then forgot to ask or tell us. (Although she knows some other guests).

Our invite even said as nicely as possible no plus ones. We invited everyones significant other, and everyone knows at least a handful of people anyway.

We told him it was ok but not to invite people. We're finalizing things with the caterer this week and we easily could've not even known until the day, we just reached out to see if they wanted to room with someone to save some money and he said he didn't think her sister would want to share a bed.

Is this a common phenomenon?

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on July 11, 2019 at 9:17 AM

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2d Bride · on July 9, 2019 at 11:36 AM
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No, it's not common. In only one instance did someone even ask to bring another person. (He is poly, and wanted to invite both his SOs, not just one.) But even then, he was asking us before inviting her.
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Alyssa · on July 9, 2019 at 11:39 AM
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Ok that makes me feel better. I just had a flash of single people in my head inviting friends or frantically searching tinder to bring someone 🤣
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Courtney · on July 9, 2019 at 12:11 PM
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Yeah that's rude on many levels. Your FH needs to step in and break the bad news to his best man.
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CourtneyBrittain · on July 9, 2019 at 12:38 PM
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My sister, who is also my Maid of Honor, had invited her best friend who then asked me if she could invite a friend. I, politely, said, 'No, I'm sorry but we are already pushing capacity.'
The friend then backed out of coming to the wedding Felt bad for my sister but oh well. My sister isn't too upset.
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Jessica · on July 9, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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While I can see the reasoning of her not wanting to hang out by herself, it is totally rude just to invite her and not say anything!
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Jessica · on July 9, 2019 at 1:41 PM
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Lol!! Lets hope this is the only one you have to deal withXD
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Brittanie · on July 9, 2019 at 3:51 PM
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I haven't sent out my invites yet, but I will have select invites with +1s, and others will ONLY have the name of the person or the names of the couples that are invited. There is only 1 person that's getting to invite someone else so that he won't be by himself, but he's my videographer and he's cutting us a HUGE deal, so if he wants someone there to help him out as well as keep him company then I don't mind. But as for everyone else that wants to invite others, They're gonna be real mad at me lol. I've already announced it on our site not to ask me if so-and-so is getting an invite or if you can bring your other friend, or that significant other that you've only been with for 2 months that I've never even met before
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Jolie · on July 10, 2019 at 9:39 AM
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This is just strange to me on so many levels. Like she's literally married she doesn't and shouldn't need a security blanket in her sister. Sit there and be proud your husband is the best man and talk to the other guests you know. I would be entirely annoyed and I wouldn't have been so nice and would've said no to bringing the sister.
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Jennifer · on July 10, 2019 at 11:06 AM
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It's definitely not common! You/FH should tell best man that her sister isn't invited! Some people just do not get it I guess. I'm going to be in a similar situation next year, but would never ask the couple to let me bring my sister, since my FH will be there lol!
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Florida Marlins · on July 10, 2019 at 4:33 PM
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No it is not common. That was out of line.
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Dedicated August 2019
Alyssa · on July 11, 2019 at 9:17 AM
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Ok so update. They were on the phone and I misunderstood and they asked to bring her, I was tired after work and only heard part of the convo. Had I realized I might have said no, I just heard my fiance say "that should be fine, right?"

So I goofed, but at least I know they asked so I feel better about it.
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