Guest Count... tacky or no??

This isn't tacky at all! In fact, it's considered general etiquette to follow up with guests that haven't RSVP'd once the deadline has passed for this exact reason

That was a great idea! May be time consuming or people may find it tacky but in the end it saves you money!

That's very practical and I did the same thing. it costs so much per person that it's good to make sure youre getting the right amount

I second PPs! If someone can't attend, you shouldn't have to pay for them

How far in advance did they RSVP? I’ve just never seen anyone RSVP yes and then a few weeks later decide they couldn’t come but didn’t tell the couple. We had a couple people get in car accidents and the flu and not make it which was unavoidable.

We are reaching out to guests we haven't heard from after our RSVP date, but not the ones that said "yes".

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Our wedding is June 21st so we had everyone to RSVP by May 1st. However, we had a few guest go back on the website to decline but did not give us a heads up. So when I went to look at numbers my food numbers and guest numbers were not matching BC when they decline they didn't unclick their food choice. Also, we have reached out to a few other guest just to make sure and they are no unavailable to attend. We just reached out to those who we knew were may just not show up even though they accepted the RSVP.

I thought it was pretty common to call and follow up with people who didn’t RSVP. You weren’t tacky at all 🤗!

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Yes. I just hear stories of a lot of guest not showing up. However, I understand when unexpected things happen but when you know you changed your decision i think its important to reach out immediately. Im glad our number are due two weeks before the wedding.

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Im glad to know that I am not alone.

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Thank You! Yes its not too time consuming BC we only reached out to those who we knew who would be skeptical about attending due to travel, kids, work etc. Our wedding is on a Friday, so that's something ppl have to consider.

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Thank You. I am glad to hear.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha that makes sense why you were confused. We had a few change their RSVP in our website as well. I just wouldn’t call everyone who RSVP’d yes to double check because that’s the point of an RSVP. But people that have a habit of not showing up is understandable.

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Thank You. I am glad to hear that.

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Yes, we did not reach out to everyone just those who we were skeptical about. Our wedding is on a Friday, so many had to consider travel time, kids, being able to take off from work etc. So it was important for me to reach out to double check for a few guest not all.

I would be offended if a couple reached out to me to make sure that I meant to accept their invitation. If I said I’ll be there, I will be there. That would make me feel like they thought I was flakey.

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Thank you for your opinion. However, we did not reach out to all guest just those who we knew could possibly not show up. It also made me want to reach out to guest BC we had a guest go back on our wedding website and change their RSVP to decline but did not unclick their food choice. That cause the numbers to be off. So if I didn't catch that, we would have thought that guest was still attending. They did not give us a call and the website didn't notify us of a change. Our wedding is on a Friday also, so we considered ppl traveling, taking off from work, children etc if that could of had an impact on their decision. We only reached out to a few not all of our guest.

I don't see anything wrong with personally touching base with your guests after the rsvps are in. I would simply say I was so excited to hear they were coming or understood they wouldn't be able to make it. These are your friends and family. If they are offended by you calling to say either of those things I would find that strange!

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I totally agree and some responded.." of coarse, I wouldn't miss it for the world" and some responded "unfortunately, we can't make anymore" both were fine with me but it was great to know, instead of paying for guest who were not showing up. I can honestly say that I didn't know to much about the wedding process until last year ( I was in my first wedding) and planning my wedding. So, some may change their mine and not think to contact the bride and groom but they dont realize its a cost attach their name.

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Yeah makes sense to me! If I received a call from a bride saying she was excited to hear i could attend her wedding, I would say yes! I can't wait! haha Wedding planning is a huge thing and it's a big learning curve-sounds like you've done well!