Guest Attire

The only people who have asked me my colors are interested to hear about my wedding planning in general, not to match with us in any way.

No idea why else they would ask?

Possibly so they don't match your colors.

I think people are just being polite. They know wedding planning is a big thing in your life right now and are just asking questions about it - but who care why, really? I answered with my wedding colors - navy and gold.

Usually it is polite to avoid the wedding colors just by an off chance they dont clash with the wedding party. one time i almost wore the exact same looking color and dress as a bridesmaid but luckily i asked for the colors before i did so i chose a different dress to wear

I always ask what color the bridesmaids are wearing if I have the opportunity because I never want to show up dressed the same!! Especially because I’ve worn dresses to some weddings as a guest that are technically bridesmaids dresses. They blend right in with regular dresses....unless they end up the same color as the BP!! I’m terrified of that happening lol

Some guests like to coordinate with the colors.

I wasn't asked that by anyone but mothers & bridal party. But I'd just tell them the colors.

View Quoted Comment Same here! I always ask because I used to always have the back luck of picking the same colors as the bridesmaids unintentionally lol.

Both of my FH daughters asked what our colors were. Well they texted FH the pictures of their dresses.. they were both solid burgundy 🙄.. the same color as my BM’s dresses are. I told him no, they can’t wear a solid burgundy since my BM’s are. So he politely told them and they got a little upset because they fell in love with them.. They are both younger (one 22 and one 25) so I get it they probably just don’t know the etiquette. I was thinking they were asking so they can avoid it a solid one. Now I don’t mind if it has other colors on the dress or a pattern, but just not a solid burgundy. Not gonna lie, my FH got a little upset with me after all that with his girls cause I bought (Already had this prior to all this with his daughters and he seen it on her and didn’t say anything about it then) my daughter (17) dress that is burgundy BUT has floral designs with other colors on it. So I got upset as well and just said F-it just do whatever I don’t care I’m over it!
So I really don’t know what to expect them to be wearing next weekend so we shall see.

It is an old school custom to make sure you aren't wearing one of the colors, but it is also to make sure they don't clash.