Hi, is anyone doing detail cards? I’ve worked really hard as far as details to make sure my wedding is very elegant and classy but I don’t want my guest wearing just anything. Are you displaying a dress code in your invitations? If so how are you going about it?
The formality of the event is indicated by the formality of the invitations. Unless the venue has specific dress requirements (eg a country club where men must have a jacket and tie on) or your wedding is black tie (which is a lot more than dress), it’s generally frowned on to have a dress code on or in with your invitations - adults should be able to dress themselves. However. I am aware that there are people in this world who think that jeans and a ratty t shirt is suitable wedding attire. I’d suggest a details card which includes your wedding website and you can put something on the website about dress. And if there are people you know who will under-dress, maybe have a word with them and tell them the venue has a dress code (even if it doesn’t).
As a PP said, the details of the wedding usually indicate formality: venue, time of day, and invitation. We didn't put any dress code, but we were having a Saturday evening wedding at a country club, so men all wore suits and women all wore cocktail dresses from what I remember. At the end of the day, if someone comes underdressed, they're the ones that will look silly, not you. And a good photographer will be good about maybe positioning them in the back of the group shots lol. If you're worried about a particular person or 2, maybe trying to casually bring up wedding attire can work to get the point across.
We put it on our details card. Even though we have "fancy" invitations and the wedding is at night at an upscale venue, there are plenty of people who think rhinestone jeans are appropriate. I also know that people aren't checking our wedding website, so it had to be included with the invite somehow.
The details card says "Formal Attire (Black Tie Optional)", and our website has it with a brief explaination of what that means.
Putting the dress code on the website with online RSVP, so I know they'll see it. As others have said, though, the location, time, and formality of the invites typically represent the formality of the event, so they should get the hint from those details.
Unless the dress code is super formal, super casual or costume required, most people wear Sunday best by default. You really can't dictate what they wear unless the venue itself has a dress code requirement.