Groomswomen: bouquets? Corsages? Dresses matching the suits?

We are two grooms. We have 3 groomsmaids and groomsmens total. They will be different on each side.

We basically had all the girls similar in look and the men in similar look.

All Groomsmaid regardless of which side they are on, have the same colour dress (different styles), bouquets etc.

All Groomsmen regardless of which side they are on are all wearing the exact same tux, same boutonniere etc.

And we decided that the dress and tuxedos for the wedding party were to be in the same colour. If they weren't that would work as well.

Us two grooms will be in a different tux colour altogether. But all of the florals will match for everyone.

I've seen where all the men are dressed the same and all the women are dressed the same. I've also seen where a Groomswoman wears a dress the same shade as the tuxedo. I would give a bouquet to a Groomswoman, but that's just me. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do it.

One of my VIPs is genderqueer (hence "VIP" not "bridesmaid") and they decided to halfway match both sides. My H and his VIPs wore grey suits with white shirts and wine ties, and my VIPs wore long wine dresses. So my VIP decided to wear grey slacks/vest with a longsleeve wine dress shirt. They also wanted to carry a bouqet which made everything integrate really nicely.

I think it matters more what the "grooms women" WANT to wear, then work from there.

One of my friends was the "best woman" in a wedding. The men wore gray suits and she wore a gray dress to match them. The bridesmaids carried a single calla lily and she did the same.

We're giving the ladies boquets and the gent's a bout regardless of the side their standing on.

I'll definitely ask them (haven't met them yet). FH says they're definitely going to wear dresses. I want it to look cohesive by FH has this idea of making sure they look like they belong on his side lol.

I understand the gender neutral thing, my photographer laughed when I said FH has "4 groomspeople" until I explained that it's a mixed group.

I'm not even 100% set on what my wedoing colors are, so there is lots of time.

All women are carrying lanterns. My BMs are wearing dark navy dresses. FH's best woman will be in gray similar to the gm suits. She'll also be carrying a lantern.

FH abhorred the idea of his BW wearing a female version of suit and tie and very specifically wanted her in a dress.

FH has one groomswoman and I have one bridesman. The groomswoman is wearing a navy blue dress to match the guys vests, and my guy is wearing a periwinkle vest to match the girls. I'm not sure if the groomswoman will carry a bouquet or not yet.

I would never force anyone to wear something just for my wedding. One of my sisters is hetero and cis but finds dresses uncomfortable, and she'll have her choice of a nice blouse and slacks if that's what she wants (I suspect she'll prefer the comfort of matching the other girls to the comfort of pants)

My FH is also having a groomswoman and she will be in the same dress and bouquet as my BMs. I'm having a bridesman on my side and he's in the same tux and bout as the GM. It depends on the person in question and what they're comfortable wearing, you should talk to her!!