Groomsmen

My fiance had roughly 6 guys he could ask. I had 7 girls.
We talked it over and decided that we could do a max of 5.
Thought it over some more and decided 4 was as many as I could handle.I'd say discuss it.Have her change her number or expectation of even numbers.Or add your sister to your side. (I'm assuming you have siblings.)

We have family in our wedding, a cousin I grew up with, a grad school friend, 2 sisters and 1 soon to be sister in law

Uneven bridal parties are very common. I wouldn’t add people just to add them. She can have five and you can have as many as you want. I’ve been in an uneven bridal party and the photos look great not uneven or anything. Your photographer will know how to pose people. Also people can double up walking down the aisle or walk alone.

I narrowed down my list to match my FH. He stretched to get it to 7. He has friends, just not close enough friends to put them in the wedding party. Do you have any brothers or does your wife? You could definitely ask them! If it's uneven, that should be fine too!

Don't pick people just to even out the sides. Remember, people are NOT props.
My fiance and I are having uneven parties as he has SO MANY friends (varsity sports will do that) and could honestly could have easily picked 12-15 close friends. Personally, I don't have that many friends that I consider close at all. The end result was that he has 6 groomsmen and I have 5 bridesmaids.

We do not have an even wedding party either. My FH has 4 groomsmen and I have 3 bridesmaids. Like Anna said, people aren’t props. It did take me a little bit to realize it’s ok to have uneven parties, it’s the people that matter not the number.

We are doing 3 groomsmen and 10 bridesmaids. And we don't care and don't think others will either. Have a conversation with your fiancee but don't add people to your party that you aren't close with because it really should be about spending your big day with the people that matter most to you

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Agreed. We have uneven numbers, by my choice, and it will be fine. Don’t add people just to add them. These will be more people to schedule, buy gifts for, coordinate, and deal with all day right by your side. It’s your choice who you pick, just like she gets to choose her BMs.

We 100% had this problem. He ended up asking his two close friends, two nephews, and my brother. While meanwhile, of my bridesmaids on one is related (my sister). If you can't match them it's not the end of the world, and if she really wants them to be even just see if she'd be ok with asking a couple people to play other roles to reduce the number of bridesmaids.

I think you should do what feels right to you. If you don't have 5 men that you really what to stand beside you, it is ok. Your numbers do not have to be even. I actually added my favorite male cousin and brother to my FH groomsmen party. However, if he wasn't ok with it, we would just have different numbers on each side. :-)

Uneven sides are completely fine and your wife to be should understand your position. Equal sides are not mandatory and you don't want to just make someone a groomsman just because. It wouldn't feel right for you, I'm assuming. Even if you only have a best man, or no one at all, that's okay. It's all about you and your bride to be. That's what matters most

First of all, the number of bridesmaids does not have to match the number of groomsmen. If she says, she wants it, you say I don't, and it is my wedding too. You are not the boss of me. You don't tell me what to do. I am letting you take care of selection of your attendants. I will choose mine. Traditionally, one of the few decisions a bride or groom makes completely by themselves, with no input at all from their mate, is selecting the Wedding Party. She needs to back off on your wedding party. You choose who, you choose attire unless you ask her to help. You want your guys all different, in their best grey or blue suits? She doesn't get to mandate tuxes, or look alike outfits, or color coordinating with BM attire. You are an adult. Don't let her treat you like she is the Mommy and you are the little boy. Unless you want that pattern all your life. Many important things in life, you need to find a middle ground you can live with. But this does not matter a hill of beans to anybody but the two of you. And you should each be able to have what you want for your people. Without 1 person bossing the other around for no good reason. Hope that when you stand your ground, she says, Okay. I did not know this was important to you. If great drama ensues, go to counseling. How to come to everyday decisions or special ones, without rancour, is the most essential skill for a marriage. We all go into marriage wanting it to last, happily ever after. The wedding may be the first complex and detailed thing that many couples plan togetther. Start as equals

For almost our entire engagement, we had uneven bridesmaids and groomsmen, until a last minute change caused one to be unable to attend! Overall I wouldn't fill the spots for the sake of filling it - you want to surround yourself with people who you are very close to and who will make you feel special on your wedding day (and getting ready, etc).

Try talking to her again and maybe hop online together and look up uneven wedding party photos and see how it looks to y'all (I think in our minds it looks crazy, and in reality it's no big deal at all). Maybe she an drop her number but have the other girls play an additional role in the wedding - we had one of my close friends who was not a bridesmaid do a short reading during our ceremony. If all of the bridesmaids have already been asked, "revoking" their position wouldn't really be an option! Talk through it together, you got this!