Groomsmen Problems

If he doesn't show- I guess just don't worry about it. Why does your FH want him in the party so badly?

You have to think of it this way: your FH insisted on including him? Great! Your FH can be the one who has to babysit him then! Not your side, not your problem haha.

I know it is easier said than done, but your FH really needs to handle his friend since he was the one who wanted to have him in the wedding party. If it doesn't get dealt with, it is no one's fault but your FH's.

I would say if he doesn't show on the day of the wedding, he doesn't show and there is nothing you can do about that. The GM can either get his shirt re-sized or deal with the size you already gave him, that is his decision. I would not stress too much about it since it is out of your control - that goes for your FH too.

If he doesn't show or cancels last minute, you will just need to be supportive of your FH, who will probably be hurt, and let it go. Don't add to his stress by harping on this or by getting angry the day of if the GM doesn't show.

I say this as I am also in a similar situation. Our Best Man does not have a great track record (in general but also with weddings) but I do think he'll show up to our wedding since he is BM. We also had a Groomsman RSVP to our engagement party (fully catered event at a venue with mailed invitations and all...) and just did not show up to the party or explain why. We heard why from someone else (he went to buy a car that day instead...) and I thought it was so rude. I complained to my FH briefly but once I saw I was making it worse for him, I let it go.

Sorry you are dealing with this! People can be so frustrating!

If he's always been unreliable then I think you should stop counting on him for anything, but at the same time, this is your FH's problem to deal with. The good news is that this person doesn't wield the power to "ruin your day" so you can just leave all this in your FH's hands and turn your attention to more important things.

Wow! Talk about a busy year! I do know someone who had this exact same situation and I thought it was really sweet but definitely sounded stressful. I hope you get at least a little break between weddings!

Yeah I will definitely be glad when her wedding is over so I can really focus on mine (which probably sounds super awful and selfish, but still)

Not at all! I am still 8 months out myself, but I imagine the last 2 months or so are the most hectic with everything coming together so you'll need to have some time before your wedding to just focus on your own wedding. And since your friend is getting married first, hopefully she can share some tips and advice after her wedding that she wish she had known ahead of time.

You should be letting your FH handle the groomsmen. If he doesn't show up, then he doesn't show up. He is an adult. If he knows what he needs to do and by when, then you need to let it go.