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Devoted August 2020

Groomsmen left hubby on bachelor night to go to strip club

Valerie, on May 24, 2021 at 9:42 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 12
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I know... great group of guys he thought were his friends left him during his bachelor party night. There was a group of 10 of them and 6 just got up from the bar they were at and left the rest of the group and said “bye ladies.” On the way out. Apparently there was talk of going to a strip club earlier in night where a few were saying everyone wants to go. However that is not true as 3 of the guys and my hubby did not agree to this idea. My husband came home extremely disappointed saying how he has no friends and they just abandoned him. I am so furious!! Then they go on the next day like nothing happened. My husband said after the wedding he’s gonna minimize contact with them. I was hoping they would atleast realize their stupidity and acknowledge and apologize to him for how they left him on his night when they knew that was not something he wanted to do. I have a few kn social media. Should I bring it up and suggest they apologize? He’s known them for nearly 20 years... I feel so bad for him. Or would I be overstepping?

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Latest activity by Tara, on June 8, 2021 at 11:13 AM
  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Honestly you should just stay out of it and leave it between him and his groomsmen. It may cause more issues if you get involved, too, and I can see where it would appear very emasculating to your husband. Just be there for him to provide him whatever support he needs. Hopefully the guys can work it out, and if not, sounds like he already has a plan to distance himself from those who weren't there to support him.

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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
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    I agree with Stacey, stay out of it.

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  • S
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    No, you shouldn’t get involved because your husband is a grown man and those are his guys. He already stated that he’s going to minimize contact. So, he made his decision and let him handle his own situations.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    That sucks, but you should stay out of it 100%.

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  • C
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    That would be 200% overstepping. Let them figure it out.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    You need to stay out of this. It’s one thing to be there for your FH when he’s feeling disappointed by his friends, but to insert yourself in this situation will absolutely have the opposite affect than what you’re looking for. If my husband tried to tell my friends anything that I confided in him about them, I would be mortified.
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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    No, I would definitely stay out of it. It would only make it worse. Let him decide what he wants to do with his friendships and the guys deicide on their own wether or not to apologize.
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
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    In his shoes I would have a difficult time allowing them to stand up as attendants at that point. He’s a saint in that regard. Best thing is to stay out of it and be supportive.
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  • E
    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    Nope. Stay out of it. No one likes a grown man who needs his wife to speak for him (or whose wife decides she can speak for him).

    There have been many times I wished I could give someone a piece of my mind about how they treated my husband. But I'm his wife, not his mom.

    All you can do is support him and emphasize.

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  • Emily
    Devoted June 2021
    Emily ·
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    He can make his own decisions, and although you care a lot about how they treated him poorly, if it’s too much for him, then he will ask them to no longer be in the wedding standing next to him. (Which is what I would do personally if I was your husband...)
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Stay out of it. It is not your job to address it with the guys and if you do its only likely to create more problems not solve them.

    What you can do is support your hubby and be there for him. I also think its worth connecting with the three guys who stayed by his side and tell them how much you appreciate them for being such good friends to your number one.

    I'm so sorry this happened to him. It totally sucks!

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    I wouldn't get involved if I were you, that might cause more hard feelings. Although I don't agree with their decisions, guys are different than girls. And I'm sure these guys don't think they did anything wrong. Maybe your husband can mention it to them at some point. But sadly, I'm not sure that would make much difference.

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