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Bryanna
Dedicated March 2021

Groomsmen issue

Bryanna, on September 30, 2019 at 2:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4
Hello WW!

I have a huge dilemma, well my FH does. We got engaged February 21st 2018, and had an engagement party shortly after in April 28th 2018. I already had an idea of who I wanted in my wedding as I have 4 sisters, a best friend, and 2 future sister in laws. I’ve known for a while they would all be apart of my special day... My fiancé on the other hand did not know who to choose. I slightly pressured him to pick by our engagement party as I wanted to announce it do the proposals at that time.


Fast forward to today... we are 7months out from our wedding and FH is regretting his pick in groomsmen. He doesn’t too much care for half of the men he picked for his party and doesn’t know what to do. I advised him it’s not too late and he can advise those he doesn’t want as his groomsmen. Being that he doesn’t talk to or spend much time with them I’m sure they would understand. He feels since he gave them gifts already he is stuck and will have people in his wedding that he doesn’t necessarily want in it. He also says that if I hadn’t of rushed him into this decision he would have had more time to think who he would like to share this special day with! Help guys I’m not sure what to tell him at this point. And I do feel partially responsible! What would you guys suggest.

4 Comments

Latest activity by Caytlyn, on September 30, 2019 at 4:46 PM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    If he cuts someone out as a groomsmen after asking them over a year ago, I would assume their friendship would be over. He probably should have just waited and you could have asked your BM in private. I would just tell him to keep the GM unless he is willing to lose the friend.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    There's still plenty of time for those friendships to strengthen
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  • T
    Dedicated October 2019
    Tee. ·
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    I would keep them if I had already asked and gotten them gifts. I would imagine it would be very hurtful to be booted from the wedding party after that. Since they are already in the wedding, it would give them a chance to talk/spend time together more.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You (hopefully) only get married once. I don't think that your wedding party is a decision that should be made lightly or should be rushed. I agree with PPs, if he kicks these people out of the party, he will likely lose those friendships permanently.

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