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Groomsmen gifts, fh dragging feet...

Margaret , on April 4, 2019 at 6:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 22

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So my FH is the WORST procrastinator. I’ve been taking care of the majority of the things that go into planning. He’s been helpful and given his opinions which I appreciate. But I gave him the task of getting gifts for his groomsmen which are his son (my future stepson) and his brother. I’ve given him some ideas of the things he could get them and he says “yeah, ok. That sounds good.” But of course hasn’t moved on actually buying anything. I’m taking care of my bridesmaids gifts, parent gifts and all of the little extras that go into a wedding reception, which is a lot! My question, is it horrible of me to just forget about the groomsmen gifts and if they don’t get something then they don’t get something? I feel awful about it but the thought of taking on another thing to think about just drains me. Our wedding is 29 days away and there’s so many little things left. All the big stuff is done but there’s still things that be taken care of and money that needs to be spent. My nerves are just shot at this point. Any thoughts?

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Amber · on April 4, 2019 at 7:03 PM
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I can't get my FH to ger his list to me on who is gonna be his groomsmen. So I'll probably be the one making the list and checking it twice and also getting their gifts together also.
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Summerbride77 · on April 4, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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I don't think it's horrible at all. I would tell your FH that the groomsmen gifts are his responsibility and if he does not get them then they will get nothing and it will look very bad.
Either that or have one last attempt and sit down and say "you're buying groomsgifts right now and I'm going to sit here and pester you until you do" (FH and I have both done this to each other, it's pretty effective.)
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 7:56 PM
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Hahaha, I like the pestering idea. I think I’ll keep that as my last resort lol. I’m really hoping he comes through at the last minute like he has in the past. But if he doesn’t then that’s on him 🤷🏼‍♀️Ultimately I don’t think his son and his brother will be offended but it’s still a nice gesture he should want to do for them. I guess we’ll see!
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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Isn’t that so frustrating? I guess maybe men just don’t see the time slipping away like we do lol. I hope he gets you the list you need so that’ll be one less thing you have to worry about.
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Official Mrs.K · on April 4, 2019 at 8:30 PM
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Omg I am laughing right now. I literally just posted about this very same topic. The only difference is that my FH doesn’t even want to get them gifts so I can’t just put it on him.
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Anna · on April 4, 2019 at 8:39 PM
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My fiancee, is a laid back by the seat of his pants guy....if he says he'll do it ....he will...usually not in my time frame but, just give him one more reminder and let it go.
You can't do everything. I feel sure he will come through for you. In his mind...he has plenty of time bless them, they have no clue do they ? Ha ha good luck!
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 8:45 PM
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You really are right. He is a good guy and if it’s important to me he will get it done. But the clock is ticking and my OCD mind is freaking out lol. Thank you so much for the calm reassurance 😊 it’s truly appreciated
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· on April 4, 2019 at 8:47 PM
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If he’s anything like my FH and it matters to you that they get gifts I would ask him to have them by a certain date and remind him a few times or text him gift ideas. If he misses the date I would grab a generic gift or a few gift cards. Mine will wait until last minute for every single gift he’s responsible for and then two days before Christmas want me to find his grandma a hand sewn quilt from all of her grandkids clothes. No. Joke.
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Destiny · on April 4, 2019 at 8:49 PM
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Https://www.agiftpersonalized.com/products/personalized-sit-n-sip-coolers-set-of-5?gdffi=82f40feadd1641c887a5b895da54eb99&gdfms=e765040b8b804c5899b7d65721a43f54&gclid=cj0kcqjw1pblbrdsarisacfug128fq0iu4e-njcqg9otrk5f4zfba1dcw1oew_v6rskwo1kjliejidaaagruealw_wcb

Maybe somthing like this
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Anna · on April 4, 2019 at 8:56 PM
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You are welcome! I deal with this too 😄 I've been waiting for him to hang up my first Valentine's gift( a shelf he made for me) for two years now. Luckily, for him he proposed on Valentine's day to distract me this year ha ha.

Try not to worry! He may surprise you yet. If you need to vent I'm here for you.
Keep me posted.
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 10:04 PM
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Oh my gosh! I guess some men don’t realize the time it takes for meaningful gifts. They need to be thought of way in advance. Especially that quilt! You can’t just order that from Amazon prime and call it a day. And I will look into having some gift cards on hand just in case 😊
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 10:08 PM
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What a sneak! How would anyone be able to bring up anything else when they’ve just gotten proposed to, and on Valentine’s Day of all days lol. That sounds really sweet though 😊 I guess my FH lack of understanding “gift etiquette” will be one of the things I learn to live with as his wife lol. It could be way worse 😂
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Margaret · on April 4, 2019 at 10:09 PM
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Those look so cool! Screw getting them for the groomsmen, I may get one for myself lol
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Destiny · on April 4, 2019 at 10:11 PM
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Well it comes in a set of 5 so make it only 4 groomsmen and keep one for you
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Anna · on April 4, 2019 at 10:21 PM
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Yes indeed ....waaay worse!
Good way to look at it
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Jolie · on April 5, 2019 at 8:33 AM
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I mean that's on him. This is not something I am going to worry about and in your case where it's quickly approaching he can look like the rude one to his groomsmen! Sorry he is being so laid back about that since it's kind of important! I am not bothering with the groomsmen gifts or his parents' gifts day of/at rehearsal. We will give both sets of parents photo albums after the wedding but I am getting something more sentimental for my own parents. I will tell FH this, whatever he so chooses to do is his prerogative. I would just keep reminding him but I wouldn't pay for their gifts myself.
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Danielle · on April 5, 2019 at 9:27 AM
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My FH is the worst procrastinator too. We've talked groomsmen gifts several times, and to be honest, I just don't know what the heck he is waiting on. I am also buying everyone elses gifts: bridesmaids, flower girls (no ring bearer), parents, and grandparents. I've asked very little of him. The only thing other than groomsmen gifts that I have asked, is for him to make some wooden wedding signs. I am literally doing everything else. He even said in the beginning that he wanted to handle groomsmen attire, so I said okay since he hasn't asked for much....well of course he kept procrastinating, so finally it was up to me to find their attire.
I would personally feel really bad if the groomsmen didn't get any gifts, and everyone else did. So as much as you don't want to, you might have to add this task to your plate.
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MrsD · on April 5, 2019 at 11:20 AM
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Can you buy them for him? It would stress me out to just forget about it.
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Margaret · on April 5, 2019 at 2:05 PM
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Yes, I would feel awful if they didn’t get anything. It’s frustrating that he doesn’t have the same feeling. Like yes, they’re his family and love him regardless but it’s still a nice gesture to thank them for their support. I think I’ll definitely have to think of a quick back up plan just in case. I really can’t wrap my mind around all these men procrastinating lol!
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Margaret · on April 5, 2019 at 2:07 PM
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I think I am going to try to figure out some back up plan just in case. I think he’ll come through probably the week of but I don’t wanna count on that lol.
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