Groomsmen, But No Bridal Party

Pick whomever is closest to you..a best friend perhaps... not a random guest's spouse. As long as you have 1-2 witnesses to sign legal paperwork, your guests won't be fazed in the least. It's nontraditional but it's not rude. Do what works for you.

The 2 guys can sign the paperwork. And if you do not have close friends or family right now to be BM, that is fine. The two guys can stand at the altar with the groom, and you come down the aisle, with an escort or independently.

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So we actually don't need witnesses- we'll be having our civil ceremony in just a few weeks and our Catholic ceremony next June! This is just more of my fiance wanting to incorporate (and honor) two men that have stuck by him through thick and thin.

I unfortunately don't have anyone to call upon. My family lives overseas and can't get visas to come to the US and the friend situation.. well that's just complicated lol! I know this sounds weird, but I've just had a long history of attracting toxic people and have been taking a break from the social scene for the last year or so. For reference, my former best friend was trying to break me up with fiance whilst trying to convince me to be in a relationship with her, despite my constant reinforcement that I was heterosexual. She would try to physically come onto me and I, at the time not having the social skills to set boundaries and correct behavior, would just kinda sit there and squirm because I didn't want to be rude. I'm not very trusting of people as a result thereof and this wedding has just stirred up a lot of feelings inside me to where I just feel like a failure of a human being because I don't have friends, like normal people do!

Personally, i just wouldnt bother with the bridesmaids if u dont want them. It doesnt really matter all that much honestly and in no way makes you a loser. My husband has more groomsmen then i have bridesmaids and its like pulling teeth to try and get all the bridesmaids together at one time. Honestly i couldve evened it out but the more ppl you have the more coordinating you have to do and the bigger the drama.


The only thing that matters is you making a commitment to your husband to be. It doesnt matter who else wants to show up etc.
At our minimony, we had only our immediate families which included my sister as my maid of honor and my husband's two brothers as best men. We didnt do any processional and no one stood with us when we said our vows. But they did take photos with us. You could always incorporate the two groomsmen by having them do bible readings next yr.
Theres not really much point of a bridal party if you arent doing the frivolities like bridal showers, processionals, etc. Theres also no right or wrong way to having someone stand with you or not. It is helpful though on day of when you are getting ready, to have someone there with you especially if u wear q dress u need help getting into, but if you cant then dont worry about it, it wont ruin your day at all.

If there is no one you feel close enough to within the U.S. to want as a bridesmaid, don’t feel obligated/pressured to choose someone. It is perfectly acceptable to not have a bridal party, even if your fiancé has groomsmen. If it bothers you to have uneven sides, could you maybe have one of the groomsmen stand next to you & the other next to your fiancé?

I don't think it would be weird. Don't force it.

I don't have many friends either, and none of them are local to my state. My MOH is from S.Korea so due to COVID and a few other things she isn't able to make it, I had 2 bridesmaids drop out but now I have a good friend who is flying in (because shes AWESOME) and my cousin who lives nearby. FH has 3 groomsmen and a best man, so our party will be lopsided. BUT what matters is that the people up there with you are the most important people in your life. I am very close with his groomsmen and couldn't be happier that they are supporting us in that way. If you don't have any girls to be up there with you maybe one of your FH friends can stand on your side to make it more even for aesthetic purposes. Either way, don't feel bad about your social situation, lots of people feel the same way and are in similar situations! (me!)

PS cut that toxic friend OUT of your life!

Not necessary or weird at all. No one will notice. It's about your day and what you guys want!

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I love her idea! One by you and one by him!! If they support him that means they support you now too since you two will be a family. So I think that would be a meaningful set up. You are so not alone btw. This is seriously common for many brides and grooms! xoxo

Thank you for the ideas everyone! I love having one stand next to me and one next to my fiancée!

It would be non-traditional, yet, it would mostly be a matter of being off balance. It leads the observer to think "why doesn't she have any friends in the wedding?" It's a matter of either he has no groomsmen and you have no bridesmaids or you look odd and socially awkward by not having two females in your life who would care enough to be part of your wedding and begs the question, what is wrong with her? And is he marrying the right woman? This is just honest. Lots of women dont have close pals due to moves or just life and those same woman have rando chicks fill the gap, whether that be nieces they havent spoken to much, distant cousins, or better yet, your own suggestion of having the wives of the two groomsmen be your bridesmaids. I mean they are coming to the wedding anyway and it only makes more fun for them to also have to be at the wedding site early to prep just like their husbands. Don't overthink this. I am sure they will feel honored. You ask them though and say "hi, my husband is so close to your husband and I definitely would like to have you be part of the wedding as well to balance things out and just further unify the people that care about us helping us on this special day. I would be most grateful if you would be a bridesmaid. Would you do that for us?"