Hello Everyone -
In need of some advice on how to go about this situation. My FH has a cousin he is very close with and have been since they were kids. I have always liked this cousin and gotten along with him up until recently and has to do with a new girlfriend of his. I am not the only one in the family who shares this concerns. Long story short, this girlfriend is very rude towards me and my FH, gives dirty looks specifically at me, very unkind and hard to talk with and actively ignores me when I am trying to have any type of conversation with her. This is something that my FH and I have noticed, as well as the other siblings to the cousin (who each have their own personal issues with her and how she acts). Its gotten to the point where we don't even like to do things with them and we keep to ourselves and only see each other at family gatherings.
My FH has wanted him to be in the wedding, which I have no problem with. They are very close and I know their relationship is important to him and I want his best friends there by him on his big day. However, we are planning on doing some special events with the wedding party and their significate others (such as renting the local trolley to drive us to some of the bars downtown before we head to the reception) and other things. I DO NOT want this girl to be there for any of these special events because 1) its obvious she has no interest in being respectful towards me on the average day, I don't want to deal with the dirty looks and smirks on my wedding day. 2)She's not friendly towards my FH either, so he doesn't even want her there. We feel like we are stuck with 2 options: either ask his cousin to be in the wedding, but tell him his GF cannot come along to some of the small events we have planned for the wedding party (which seems unfair considering the others in wedding party are allowed to have their significant others) or just inviting the cousin and his girlfriend to the wedding and not asking him to be in the wedding party. The later seems to make the most since, I just don't want their to be any awkward tension between the family the day of because the cousin wasn't asked to be a groomsman. Is it unreasonable to just invite them to the wedding? He would still be there for support and be in the family photos, but I'm just wanting to enjoy my big day with the ones closest to me who are actually excited to be there for me and not have to deal with mean looks and the fake "we always hangout together" attitude that she likes to present when other family members are around, then instantly disappears when they leave.
