Groomsman hair

It's very controlling to tell someone they aren't allowed to have colored hair for your wedding. You're not asking him not to color his hair, his hair is already colored and sounds like it has been for a long time. You're asking him to dye his hair a color that you think is acceptable for your wedding.

Nothing. You do not get a say. Sure you can have an opinion and not like it but it's their hair, their choice. Just make sure you get plenty of photos with your FH so you will have lots to love.

I'my very glad you realized you shouldn't ask your future spouse to exclude him from the wedding party. You should carry that idea further and know you can't ask someone to change their hair or body for you. You're allowed to not like pink hair of course, but I would just keep those thoughts in your head.

The good news is that there will be PLENTY of photos that don't feature or even include this person. Lots of people only display photos with them and their spouse, or with family members.

You can't ask anyone in your bridal party to do or not do something specific with their body (outside of bridesmaids hair styles and makeup). If you were concerned about this, you should not have asked him to be in the wedding.

Talk with your FH. This is his friend, not yours. If you let him know that you are worried about his friend showing up with colored hair, your FH might know a way to approach a conversation with him that makes it clear you'd prefer everyone to look more "traditional" for your wedding. There are a lot of ways a clever guy can drop hints to his buddy about not having an extreme look for your wedding, such as saying "the girls are wearing this color so we need to pick colors that don't clash, like nothing neon, lol" or whatever. You cannot tell him what to do, but I think your FH can make your collective "vision" known and hopefully his friend respects you both enough to honor that.

For example, there are bridesmaids with tattoos or gauged ears that willingly cover up those modifications because the respect the aesthetic the bride is going for and want to fit in and make the bride happy. But it would be really inappropriate of a bride to require a friend to dye her hair or purchase expensive cover up makeup just to be a part of the wedding.

My coworker has long, gorgeous hair and often comes to work with it dirty. He was in a friends wedding and bride asked that he cut it it had opposite effect and he grew it longer. For the ceremony and pictures, he pulled it back (and washed it I assume). He did tell me that during introductions he ripped rubber band off and flipped his hair. Be careful asking for such request as they may backfire.

I was bald in my friend's wedding from chemo and even though I never wore wigs in general during treatment, I wore one for her wedding to make her happy. I think it's all in how you approach the situation, and each person should handle their own friends!

Definitely controlling. and kinda bridezilla behavior (sorry).

I get that you want things to go perfectly, but it's his body, his choice. I personally think even dictating how bridesmaids should wear their hair is controlling (for the wedding), but that's just me.

if you're super worried about it, you can definitely mention it to your FH but I don't really see much coming from that. I'd file this one under "grin and bear it."