Groomsman Deliemma

Try not to stress about things you can’t control. He’s an adult, I’m sure he’ll be there in appropriate shoes.

You mention the shoes that 'come with the tux', so I'm assuming they are rental shoes?

First option is to find shoes that are close enough. Honestly, unless the shoes are wildly off the color everyone else is wearing, no one will notice.

Another option is to offer to cover the cost of his rental shoes, and ask if he can wear them for the bridal party photos. Maybe even the ceremony. Then, let him change into the shoes that are most comfortable for him

Yeah, I'd try to make him get the rental shoes regardless (even if he has to size up and make them roomy) to wear for pictures and maybe the ceremony if he's not putting in the effort to find a comparable pair. Otherwise, I'd have your FH text him in a few days, but that's really all you can do

You or your FH can politely send a text or give him a call asking for an update on the shoe crisis and when he says he hasn't looked yet remind him that it's getting close and that if he has to order online shipping can take awhile. Then tell him if he doesn't find the shoes the backup plan is to have him wear the nice shoes for the ceremony and for pictures then he can change out of the uncomfortable shoes later.

When he hears the backup plan then he might just take that instead of looking for more comfortable shoes which takes the pressure off of you.

Honestly I’d just forget about the shoes. They’re SUCH a small detail that they really don’t matter. Especially if he can get a pair in the same color, he should be fine. And I wouldn’t worry about 23 days. It shouldn’t take more than 1 day for a man to buy a pair of shoes, even if he has to stop at a couple of stores to find one that’s comfortable. sure it may not be ideal if the shoes don’t match, but, there’s not much to be done and it won’t ruin your day. I’d rather have unmatching shoes than an uncomfortable friend.


We actually had a funny shoe situation in that my husband just had his guys wear any sort of the same style shoe, hoping no one would have to go but new shoes, and we knew most of them had something similar. But, he sent the link to the shoes he was getting for reference. Well....3 out of the 4 groomsmen just went out and bought that shoe, haha. So, ONE wore a completely acceptable pair that he already owned...well, now in pictures he’s the only guy in a different pair, it kinda looks like he just forgot his or something ...I feel a little bad as they were fully approved shoes ! But ....otherwise it doesn’t matter. They are a teeny tiny little detail that are only even visible in a handful of pictures. They didn’t effect me and they didn’t effect our group photos. So I just wouldn’t stress it. I suspect he’s not gonna show up barefoot !

Stay out of it. He can wear the uncomfortable ones for pics if he doesn't have others. 23 days is plenty of time to buy a pair of shoes.

I really don't think anyone's going to pay much attention to their shoes. Don't worry about it