Groomsman decided to plan wedding two weeks before us

I had a similar situation except we set ours a week after our groomsman did and it wasn’t a big deal but it did take a bit of extra planning to make sure the pre wedding events didn’t coincide with one another

I honestly wouldn’t care, just because with venues nowadays you don’t really get to pick your specific date anymore especially if you don’t book wayyyy in advance.

I completely get how this is irritating, but I think your best bet is to be the bigger people and let it go. Everyone on the common guest list knows your date was chosen first and you've been actively planning for six months. Also, since you're already, admirably, committed to not playing a comparison game with this couple, I'd just continue with that mindset. Be happy for them and supportive friends, but YOU get to decide that you are not going to get drawn into any sense of competition. Keep your plans from here on out to yourselves and be happy with YOUR choices and don't pay much attention to theirs. The guys will have to figure out the common GM issues. Based on SIL's large group of friends, I think that's potentially much easier for guys than it might be for women. SIL and one of his GMs got married about 2.5 months apart, but their bachelor parties were only 2-3 weeks apart, due to holidays and scheduling issues. They all had a good time at each (they were very different, best fitting their different personalities). Hang in & good luck!

If you're close, it never hurts to explain your feelings. People should understand the danger of having two events like that close together, and if they haven't officially announced/decided the date, it wouldn't hurt to talk about it. But I also understand PP's comment about venue; if that's the day that worked for them, there isn't that much that can be done.

I would be frustrated too, but it’s best to just be happy for them and not let it bother you. You know your wedding will be a great time so just focus on that!

Farms are SUPER common venues so I can't imagine they did that on purpose. I for sure wouldn't say anything to them. I would be annoyed if it was the day before or day after our wedding, or on our wedding day. Other than that, the bride & groom can't claim an entire month in my opinion.

I do not think you should say anything (although I would be a bit livid) but I do not think you should change your date either. I would have sneakily asked why they chose that day but since you say they tend to want to keep up with the jones' maybe they did it to have it first or maybe they did it for reasons not related to your wedding. I would share limited details so just in case they do not steal your theme or anything. If you say anything it will cause issues so just be upset about it and vent to FH but let it go and keep on with your day.

I’m getting married 3 weeks before my best friend (she set her date first). It’s honestly been great to plan in tandem with someone.

Honestly, being in a similar timeline as them, we picked a date based off of when the venue was free. And it just happened to be the weekend before Easter. We went in with several other dates in mind, most of them were booked, and we ended up just asking for April dates to see if they had any since we didn't want to plan a HUGE wedding and be engaged forever. So I would take a deep breath, assume the best. It sucks because of the crossover for the groomsmen, but they may even be able to get a tux shop to do something like hold that exact tux to avoid alterations and reordering for two? That might be a plus unless you ladies both decide on different tuxes.