Groomsman cant pay his tux rental

You have two choices- pay for the tux rental or ask him to attend as a guest.

If you want him there and dressed appropriately, I would pay it. However, if he is a chronic problem with money I see an issue with enabling his misuse of money (i dont know him but my ex cant afford to put gas in his car and hes 34). My guess is if hes saying he wants no debt, he has no intentions of making this doable.

Just pay it and get him to pay you back. You were very nice to offer and he should not be complaining about the 'debt' he will now owe you.

I'd bite the bullet--what's another $200 at this point *laughs and then sobs as all money flies out the window*

doesn't sound like he plans on paying you back if you pitch in.

Yeah i will just pay it. Im just so disappointed in him not wanting "debt" ...I'm the MOB i don't even want my daughter to even know about this kind of crap. I cant believe how much you find out about people when it comes to a wedding!

Sounds to me, which obviously I could be wrong, that he 'doesn't want debt' because he's hoping you'll just pay for it outright.

Why do refer to "my ring bearer"? Did he know how much the tux would cost before he agreed to be in the wedding?

@Linda sooooo true. People's true colors really come out...!

Let him know if he doesn't want debt then he should have paid for it his @*÷$ self. Hand him a bill with a payment plan at the reception.

*drops mike, walks off stage*

We had a little of the same issue with H younger brother. (24) He said he couldn't pay for the $200 tux. But then he would spend loads of money on beer and pot. It was a sore subject with us but we did pay for his tux.

I would pay it to avoid drama.

Paying for it and not hassling with it is one of your two choices. We can't tell you what to do. Want him there? Pay for his suit. Are you feeling manipulated and that doesn't sit well with you? Then call his bluff and don't pay for it. A wedding will absolutely go on without a groomsman and a child.

Such is life. It's your choice. We don't know you, don't know him, don't know the history, and don't what importance you've placed on the child and father participating in a very brief affair.

If you want to know what I'd do, I'd tell him to take a hike. He doesn't want debt? Who the hell does? He should have thought of that before he agreed to take part in your wedding. Bye...nobody will miss him (and sorry, but nobody will miss the ring bearer either).

ETA: Wait, you're not the bride? Your the MOB? LOL, so was I...a few years ago. Yep, I paid for all kinds of things on top of the wedding and the honeymoon. If I did it again, I'd call out the moochers. A moocher, even if he's in a tux, is still a moocher.

Linda, I wish I could "like" Rachel D's post 1,000 times. I could not agree more.

This stuff about couple's having to pay for BP clothing is ridiculous to me. You asked. They agreed. They need to follow through. Done.

Pay it if you want him in your wedding if not he can come as a guest

I have 2 groomsmen that still haven't gone to get fitted for a tux. If they don't get their shit together within this week, they're out. Plain and simple.

I'm not taking up for the guy, but according to what you said, he had an unexpected expense and the tux rental is beyond what he can do because of it. That makes it sound to me that money is tight for sure, for whatever reason, But the $200 tux isn't for him. It's for you or your daughter. If he cannot afford it, you can have him be in the wedding and not wear the clothes you want him to wear, pay for the tux, or have him just be a guest. I would not try to lend people money to do something that they're doing for me anyway.

I'm more concerned that you're the MOB, and you said "Our" Wedding. And his son is "your" ring bearer.

Either pay it or don't. Or see if he can come up with it in time on his own.

I would not pay for him, especially if he has a history of this behavior.