Groom's sons' attire

Why do you feel they need to match? Even bridesmaids don’t match in the current generation but they clearly stand out as being bridesmaids. Since they are not groomsmen or other attendants, they don’t need to match anyone as long as they fit the dress code.

Maybe ask what they want to wear? I personally want my groom to stand out from everyone else. While they'll all be wearing black, he'll be wearing a waistcoat and the groomsmen will be wearing cummerbunds.

They're definitely old enough to pick their own outfits, but I think you can set some boundaries (for example no neon orange or whatever) for the sake of family pictures.

I guess match was the wrong word. They don't need to match the groom of course, he should stand out, and not match each other but a uniform look in his sons' attire is more what I envision for this wedding. Not sure how to explain myself.

Yes, they can pick their own outfits but their choice for Sunday Mass is tennis shoes and sweatshirt, which is definitely not the dress code for our wedding at a church and ballroom. Thirty years from now when we look at the wedding album it would be nice to see the group pictures with their dad and not look at Vans shoes or college sweatshirts. Like Jasmine said, I'll try to set some boundaries and see how it goes.

Affix boutonnieres to everyone's lapels and that will unify their looks.

I would have them wear complimentary colors. For example, I don’t think a black suit would look good with a navy suit. To me, that clashes. So maybe try to avoid clashing suit colors. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Oh yeah, they definitely need to dress the right formality for church. You wouldn't be overstepping if you tell them that!

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Thank you for this suggestion!! I think it's doable!

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Thank you! I will suggest some colors for them to choose!

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Thanks Jasmine S! I'm just getting the hang of step-parenting and that feeling of not wanting to overstep is definitely what I'm learning how to deal with! Thank you so much for your suggestions!