Haley
Devoted October 2020

Grooms Input...

Haley, on May 22, 2019 at 12:37 PM Posted in Planning 0 17
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Still in the planning process here. My wonderful FH has 0 opinions on anything haha. Is there anything that your grooms wished they'd had a say in after the fact? Anything that the grooms didn't think of until later and they feel they missed out on? I'm trying to make the day OUR day but it's a little hard when he doesn't have any opinions haha.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I feel like that’s pretty common with grooms to not have an opinion. What I found worked best was to narrow it down to 2 or 3 options then ask for his opinion from there.
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  • Haley
    Devoted October 2020
    Haley ·
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    That's basically what I've been doing. I just feel a little bad bc I'm getting the whooole experience of the wedding planning and he just shows up day of? He said he wanted to just go to Hooters (*eyeroll* haha) for his bach party and I went to his best man and asked him to please plan something cool. I don't want him to regret not putting his spin on stuff or doing things that he'd like to do.

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  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    He's an adult. If he has an opinion on something, he'll voice it. Often times, men just don't seem to care about a lot of the details. My FH basically doesn't care about anything but the music. Music is very important to him (he owns like 5 guitars), so that he found the DJ and his been thinking up what songs should be played for our first dance, etc. The minor details like flower girl baskets, table numbers, etc., he couldn't care less about.
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  • Annie
    VIP October 2018
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    My husband had inputs relating only to food/alcohol. He wanted his favorite beer served and an ice cream bar for dessert. He did get excited about adding drone footage to our wedding video, but other than that he didn't care.

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    I just talked everything out with my husband as we planned and if he had an opinion about something he would speak up about it but otherwise we pretty much agreed on everything or he liked the ideas and vendors I came up with. Every guy is different, mine was very involved and we talked about and planned the wedding together.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    My groom helped pick venue & photographer, his suit rental, his groomsmen & their gifts, the caterer, the dessert caterer, the date, and the officiant. I found it best to narrow it down to 2-3 options before asking for input.

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  • B
    Devoted July 2017
    Becky ·
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    There were a few things H had opinions on - his attire, food/alcohol, and music. We picked the venue together (over FaceTime lol - we picked the one venue he wasn't able to tour with me). For the rest though, he said that all he wanted was to marry me, and that he wanted me to be happy with the wedding. Depending on what you're looking at, he may just want you to be happy.

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  • Cynthia's and Robert  Wedding Day
    VIP September 2020
    Cynthia's and Robert Wedding Day ·
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    My FH picked the venue with me. He had input on the food. He will have input on the music. He definitely chooses his suit and groomsman clothes.

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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
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    The only thing my FH has had opinions on is our color and the food lol. Everything else he lets me decide and even if I ask him I get the "whatever you want babe is fine with me" haha So I try to include him in as much as I can but I always get the same answer.

    I say just keep asking him and make sure he is 100% on board with all the decisions you're making to make sure he wont regret anything later on.

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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    I can't even get FH to pick out his OWN SHOES! Every once in a while I will ask his opinion on something and get an actual answer. On those rare occasions I try to go with what he preferred. Party planning is just not most guys thing. My motto is this - I am going to keep asking him about everything but expect no input... that way at least I feel like I tried and if he comes back later saying he didn't like something I can sleep peacefully knowing that I did ask him and he had the opportunity to get what he wanted.

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  • Haley
    Devoted October 2020
    Haley ·
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    Yeah thats what I mean! We went to a wedding where FH was a groomsman and the shoes were horrible and all the GM took them off before the reception and changed into boots or tennis shoes and FH told me NOT to make him rent those shoes for our wedding. I know these men aren't going to know what kind of flower they want.....but I wonder if any of the grooms decided the suits were uncomfortable or they wished they had done a different mother/son dance or something.

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  • Soon2Bmrsp
    VIP May 2019
    Soon2Bmrsp ·
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    He will eventually, just keep trying to include him
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  • Toni
    Expert January 2020
    Toni ·
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    My fiancé doesn’t help plan a lot I usually ask him his input but it’s hit or miss. I got him involved by giving him the task of dressing himself and the groomsman and planning our honeymoon (he wants to make it a surprise so I will know nothing about it until I board the plane)
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  • A
    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·
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    When my FH has an opinion he'll voice it otherwise he's quiet. He decided on a second shooter for photography. He agreed with me on the cake vendor and he hates cake. He decided he wanted the dance floor in the center and not off to the side and I said okay, because like I said he rarely has opinions. We had some differing opinions on the guest list. The frustrating thing is when he has an unwanted opinion I didn't think he gave a crap about. Like plates for our registry.... I asked him to look for ones he wanted then and he still hasn't. I've told him he wanted to have an opinion he didn't like the ones I picked so he needs to follow through. Smiley amazing

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  • Haley
    Devoted October 2020
    Haley ·
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    Yeah I keep getting "I don't care but I don't like that one" haha. I asked him if there's anything HE wanted on our registry, he says no. Then I'm like "look they have this grilling set that's really nice. You grill almost every day in the summer"..."oh yeah that's good". I know some people's responses are "he's an adult, if he wants something he will say it" but I feel like he doesn't know there are options you know?

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  • A
    Master October 2019
    Angelena ·
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    Yeah I really think my FH can't be bothered to look up items. In BB&B he scanned random stuff I had to take off. I am like we don't need a quesadilla maker... they can be made in the oven. We need to fit all these appliances into our small kitchen lol. The first time I asked him about plates at Target he was so angry. Then I decided to switch to Walmart I picked what I liked and he complained but still won't look. I'll remind him again before it's too close to the shower. I also told him cuz it's Walmart he can look for any outdoor things he might want and he hasn't bothered so I just leave it be Smiley ups

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  • Haley
    Devoted October 2020
    Haley ·
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    They are such procrastinators I swear haha

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