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Super April 2017

Grooms Divorced Parents in Procession?

ENG, on March 10, 2017 at 12:51 PM Posted in Planning 0 9

Posted in an old thread but realized it was a double ring 1-star and thought I might have better luck on my own...

FH's parents are divorced and he is much closer with his Mother than he is his Father (and we barely know his dad's new wife). Do we need to include them in the processional or is it typically just the groom's mother? If we include both sets of parents does his Father go first, kicking off the processional because his mom should walk down in front of my mother as a sign of honor? If his father is already seated with his wife would we also have his mom's husband seated so that only the moms are escorted solo?

Right now we have:

Walking:

FH's Dad & his wife

FH's Mom & her husband

My Brother escorting my mother

Groom/Groomsmen

Bridesmaids

Me & My Dad

Should it be:

Father, Father's Wife, Mother's Husband already seated

Walking:

FH's Brother escorts FH's Mother

My Brother escorts My Mother

Groom/groomsmen

Bridesmaids

Me & My dad

9 Comments

Latest activity by ENG, on March 10, 2017 at 2:27 PM
  • Gracie Lou Freebush
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    Gracie Lou Freebush ·
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    I'm not sure it matters that much or if people would dig deeper into the significance of who walks in what order

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  • ENG
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    ENG ·
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    Thanks for sharing, Mrs. LMac!

    Kay, you'd totally think that but I've learned that you never know what someone is going to cling to. I care less about what the guests are interpreting and more about FMIL's and his family's interpretation of things. Also FH doesn't seem keen on including his father's wife in anything (pretty recent wife, FH is not a fan) but I fear some sort of drama or bad feelings if we don't.

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  • mrsmack
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    mrsmack ·
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    I've been wondering about this myself. FH's parents and mine are both divorced, but his parents split amicably where as mine did not, and my mom has remarried. I'm planning on having her 2nd husband already seated. My plan was to have FH's aunt (she helped raise him a lot) escorted in by the best man, FH escort FMIL, his father escorted by FSIL (a bridesmaid) then my mom escorted by my brother.

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  • Gracie Lou Freebush
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    @ENG yes, you're right I guess that is true. I actually have the same sort of situation. FH's parents are still together, my mom is remarried, and my dad has a girlfriend that I despise and she despises me back lol. Her and my mom DEFINITELY don't get along. Ill have to put some thought into the order and seating too. When I was ordering flowers, I ordered a boutonniere for my stepdad just like my dads and I got to wondering if she'd try to act offended if I didn't get her a corsage like my moms. so... I ordered her one... a SMALLER one. Because shes not a nice lady lol

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  • Gracie Lou Freebush
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    Gracie Lou Freebush ·
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    Edited bc duplicate comment

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    I was thinking about proposing the following to FH and then letting him "edit" as he felt was necessary. His parents are also divorced and FMIL is remarried. We also intend to honor grandparents. I think you can do it any way you and FH think is best and your families will be comfortable.

    FH's step-grandparents

    My Grandmom and FH's dad

    FH's mom and stepdad

    My mom escorted by my brother

    Groomsmen

    Groom

    Bridesmaids

    Bride and dad

    I kind of felt like pairing FFIL with my recently widowed Grandmom would be nice since his long time girlfriend isn't coming. She wanted to stay home to care for her parents.

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  • Kelsey
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    Kelsey ·
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    I havent even thought of this yet, but now im wondering how our parents will feel about the processional... I'm not close with my father so I'm planing on having my grandfather walk me, but I'm not sure what to do about my stepmother and my FH's mom and her gf. My FH's mom isn't out publically so having them walk together might be a problem.

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  • Diana
    Expert October 2017
    Diana ·
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    My FH's parents are divorced and both remarried, and we are have both of them walk down the aisle with their spouses. I think it's always better to be inclusive if possible. As for the order, I would have your mom walk down first. I doubt his dad while mind one bit!

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  • ENG
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    ENG ·
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    Thanks, all!

    Kay, SAME about the corsage. FH was adamant he didn't want to get his dad's wife one (I think because it puts her on the same "level" as his mom and my mom in his eyes). I don't want to dictate how he handles his family, but I'm working with a florist that allows me to purchase bulk flowers and be included in the assembly so I think last minute I might just make her one with leftovers from my bouquet. That way if drama arises I can say "oh! you know what, I think our coordinator has yours!" and have someone run to get it.

    As for the procession, I think I'll present FH with 2 options and have him pick. Either everyone goes, led by his mother and her husband – or just the moms are escorted to their seats.

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