Groom wants to sing - opinions?

Hi Amber, I think if husband wants to sing, let him sing. Especially since he has an "honors choir voice". It's not like he's completely tone-deaf, right? I think you are perhaps too concerned about this. It could end up being a beautiful moment.

I agree. No one is going to leave the wedding saying---why was he allowed to sing? Etc.

I'm a singer from my younger years and I love that song as much as the next person, but unlike PP's, I don't think your FH needs any stress on your wedding day or pressure from his mom to perform when he should be able to just enjoy the moment. This is the few minutes he gets to dance with his mom on his wedding day, this only happens once (hopefully), so why waste it having to perform for your guests? Talk to your FH, let him know how you feel, but let him know to think on it, but to make his decision based on how he feels, not his mother.

My fiance' wants to play the piano during the wedding. He's good but I told him it's not a talent show jokingly. I would say if you feel nervous at least try to agree upon the whole idea of you maybe listening to him sing and maybe a sibling or his mom to see how it goes... and then take it from there.

Your wedding day is about you and him. While it's possible she may be a little disappointed if he chooses not to sing, I also think she will support the fact that you guys want to do things your way on your special day. I don't think she should have a problem with it. On the other hand, keep in mind there's already how many decisions to make for your wedding and receptiin. Maybe consider in which area could you bend a little to keep mom happy? Could this be that small thing? Or is there another thing that will please her? Maybe you could have the song played and he could sing his favorite part ALONG with Celine, like have the microphone snuck to him right before that part...like 2 lines, Then she will smile and he can let the song keep going with just celine, and they can finish their dance only dancing. Just a thought?

To add, telling him how you feel, especially if you stress that you want him to enjoy the moment rather then worry about performing, it shouldn't hurt his feelings, it's just an honest concern.

I think if he wants to sing then he should record a version before hand. It’s easy to edit and even clean up his voice with simple garage band or another music program. Also I think hearing the song sung by a guy for that moment would be great but that’s just me. My FH and I are both musical and plan to sing at some point at our reception. I think for your case a lot of people will be surprised and think what a special gesture that was for him to take it up a notch

If he wants to sing, he should definitely pre-record the song. There has been many a hot mess performance by someone when a wave of emotion came over them in the moment.

View Quoted Comment I agree completely with this!

If he really has his heart set in singing I’d let him prerecord it. But only if he has access to a professional recording system. Otherwise it’s just going to sound like you hooked up your phone to the speakers and are playing some crappy YouTube cover video. If he does a pro quality recording it’ll (hopefully) just sound like another cover of that song and most people probably won’t even realize it’s your FH singing.

If he really wants to sing, he should record it beforehand to take the pressure off. Honestly though, this is meant to be a special moment with his mother and he'll spend the whole dance wondering what everyone is thinking of the song. My advice would be to just have the moment dancing, but ultimately it's his decision.

A wedding I attended last year, the groom and his mom danced to James Taylor's "Sweet Baby James", a song she used to sing to him when he was little, and about halfway through he started singing it to her. I ugly cried, it was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen.

I say let him sing! It'll be a slow dance, so I don't think dancing and singing at the same time will be too much of an issue, especially if they practice.

*won't be much of an issue

It won't let me edit

Pre-record. I worked at a wedding once where the Bride was going to sing a song but when I handed her the mic, she choked. The emotions can be too much in a situation like that and combined with nerves can be very bad. She was so embarrassed the rest of the night. So if it is important to him, pre record it.

Maybe as a gift to him, find a somewhat professional sound engineer that can mix his vocals and make sure it sounds nice and it would probably be something he would have fun doing.

Sorry this is cringey to me. I would feel awkward as a guest listening to this. Does he really want to do this? I would just be honest and say it's kinda weird, particularly since Celine is such a powerhouse, it's not like he is going to do a better job than her

lol, moms....

This would make me feel super uncomfortable as a guest...

The wedding is for the couple; the reception is for the guests. Don't embarrass your guests by subjecting them to amateur entertainment.

What if you played the original version and he sang it to his mom (no mic) while he danced with her? That way it is a private moment for the two of them, no one else can probably hear him over the music, and that way if he gets choked up or caught up in the moment he can stop without any pressure and keep dancing while the song plays. If not, I would go with pre-recorded. I think him singing with a mic would be awkward. It is a bit odd to me that FMIL wants to be serenaded at your wedding but maybe I'm over thinking it.

The FH is a classically trained vocalist. I wish I had this problem!
It's a super schmatzy idea, but it's a super schmatzy song. I think it can be fun and sweet but only if you think it is. If you think it's uncomfortable and weird so will everyone.

I think it could be really awkward. If he set on doing it, I would do as PP suggested and pre record it.