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Groom to play piano while i walk down the aisle?

Dana, on October 3, 2018 at 11:41 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 13

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Hey!
My fiancé is a musician and while talking over wedding plans with his parents last night the idea came up that he can play the piano while I walk down the aisle. The piano is on wheels so it can be moved closer to the center of the aisle so he can stand and take a few steps to meet me. I still have to OK it with the church since they have a contract with their pianist regarding weddings and we would still use their pianist for the groomsmen procession and the recessional.

Have you guys guys seen this done? Did it work out well? I’m also kind of sad that if we do this we won’t get that picture of him really seeing me for the first time (although we might get that photo since he’s not the type to read music - he actually CANT read music - he just sits down and wings it and it sounds beautiful every time) or that he might miss it entirely because he’ll be too focused on playing the piano.

What do you guys think? Thanks!

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Sarah · on October 3, 2018 at 11:44 AM
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Unless he’s 100% on needing to do this, I wouldn’t. He should be watching you walk down the aisle and standing waiting for you, IMO.
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Mcskipper · on October 3, 2018 at 11:54 AM
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The idea behind this sounds sweet to me, but the reality as a bride sounds terrible. It takes away the whole big moment of him watching you, of getting emotional, if you seeing him watch you. There’s no way the focus can be evenly split, either he’s distracted from the music watching you and the music is awkward or he’s distracted from you and the music is beautiful but the two of you don’t have that precious moment. If you want him to play a special song I’d recommend doing it before the processional, or at the reception.
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Anjelica · on October 3, 2018 at 11:54 AM
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Agree with PP, I haven't seen this done nor would I think it would work out well. I feel like he should be waiting and watching you walk down the aisle. As a bride, I've always wanted to have that moment of having my groom watch me walk down the aisle and see his reaction. If he is set on playing, maybe can play the piano while the bridal party walks in and then stand up/swap out with the other pianist and watch you walk down the aisle?
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Ashley · on October 3, 2018 at 11:56 AM
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I was considering walking down the aisle with FH, so I don't really care about watching him wait for me at the end of the aisle, I'm actually dreading that part- it'll be awkward for me. Like okay, here's a straight 30 seconds of just eye contact? But if he's not looking at the sheet music, he can still be watching you. I think this is an awesome idea and would totally do this if FH was musically inclined!
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Kristen · on October 3, 2018 at 12:01 PM
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I think this is a cool idea in theory but I also would be concerned that it takes away from him standing there and seeing you for the first time as you walk down the aisle.
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Mrs. J Robinson · on October 3, 2018 at 1:14 PM
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Would it be possible for him to play the song on the piano ahead of time, you guys record it, and then play it as you’re walking down the aisle? I definitely like the idea, but if he plays it while you’re walking i think it might take away from the intimacy in the moment because you don’t have his undivided attention. I’ve been to a wedding where the bride sung the song she walked down the aisle to ahead of time and then had the DJ play the song when it was time. I thought it was unique and it gave her and her husband a chance to take in the moment!
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Grace · on October 3, 2018 at 2:01 PM
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Is it possible for your FH to record the music ahead of time so it can be played over the church sound system? If so this would allow you to experience him seeing you walk down the aisle without the distraction of the piano. I think that having music played that was made by your FH would be a special touch that will be a memorable part of your wedding. Many churches have really good sound systems. The church I went to from childhood until early adulthood had an amazing sound system installed and chances are if the church your getting married in has been updated with modern equipment it will to.
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Dana · on October 3, 2018 at 2:41 PM
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Thanks for all your input! I feel like this is one of those ideas that’s great in theory but not so much in execution. Him recording it and playing it at the church could definitely be doable.. one of the bedrooms in our house is his music studio 😂
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Cuoghi · on October 3, 2018 at 2:45 PM
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I'd ask him if he wants to do it. Will he be to nervoud/excited to play? Wants to focus on you walking down the aisle?
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Alisha · on October 3, 2018 at 3:17 PM
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I think this is one of those things that sounds sweet in abstract, but messy and difficult in actual execution. FH also plays organ/piano, and plays for many weddings. For ours, however, he hired a string quartet, and he arranged all of the ceremony music, so it still has that personal touch. I think the idea of your FH recording the music ahead of time would be a great way to do it!
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Dana · on October 3, 2018 at 3:24 PM
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He’s a pretty shy person and he said he’s going to “be nervous the day of anyway so what’s the difference” lol. He says NOW that he doesn’t really care but come time to actually do it I’m sure it’ll be a bigger deal
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Cuoghi · on October 3, 2018 at 4:51 PM
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I will say I went to a vocalist wedding once and she sung and it was awful because she had been crying and was nervous Maybe he can play you a song at the reception or something?
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Angela · on October 3, 2018 at 7:38 PM
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I don’t think it’s a good idea. He needs to be able to focus on you in that moment. My fiancé is a musician too and I want him to play the music I walk down the aisle to as well; we are going to pre-record his guitar playing an instrumental and that will be what I walk down to. The he’s free to focus on us and be in the moment when the ceremony actually happens.
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