Groom suit

Is your FH also going to see you in different dress styles and help pick your attire?

I'm going to Men's Warehouse to have my FH try on a few suits. They're pretty nice about setting you up with a bunch of different options! I couldn't decide between a blue and a grey suit, and having him try it on (and bringing swatches of the girls colors) made it much easier for me to see everything since I have a hard time just picturing things!

That’s a lot more progress than I have with my FH!! Mine hasn’t decided on who his groomsmen will be much less what style he’s going to wear. I have decided to stop stressing about it & focus on everything else. He did tell me he’s planning on a suit & not a tux. Progress!

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Hahah sometimes you gotta just take what you can get!

What is with the sudden inability of these guys to see to their own clothes ( without being pinned down by their brides)??????? I would think that by the time they can hold down jobs and live like independent adults, they could figure out their own clothes for a day. 😗 Or is this some new reality tv challenge : brides choose their groom's clothes for the day with help from their girlfriends. Then the groom goes out armed with advice from friends and anonymous posters on the internet, and finds the perfect gown or suit for his bride to wear????

Our main driver (especially having to scale down our celebration due to COVID too) was to find something that he wouldn't mind wearing again or could wear again to a nice occasion. He told me he wanted to have a James Bond esque look lol so we ended up getting a lovely 3 piece from Macy's.


I don't think it had anything to with his inability to pick his own clothes, but I found when I changed the way I asked questions (being more specific or tangible vs these big open ended let's try on the universe questions that a bride might be better at qnswerong) we got more progress.
Maybe save a few photos on pinterest just to see what his suit style is, see if you like vest vs. No vest, dinner jacket/blazer vs. Full suit. I've heard men's wear house will have a wider variety of options to see, even if you don't end up purchasing from them, at least you'll know what you're looking for

My FH and I went shopping last week. We had been talking about a charcoal suit but when we got to the store they had a really great looking suit in the window. Blue. Of course FH loved it. Sigh. I told him that we couldn’t do the blue with the bridesmaid dresses because the colors weren’t close enough or different enough to work but that if he really liked that one we would exchange the girls’ dresses (they are our daughters so we bought the dresses) and do a different color for them. He decided against that and ended up getting a charcoal suit but I was 100% behind what he wanted since he would be the one wearing it.

View Quoted Comment Not at all, is this a serious question? Lol

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I feel like he should feel just as good on the day as me, and If that means a specific color, then we need to figure it out! Bc what I have in mind and what he has in mind will clash with bridesmaid color

View Quoted Comment Super helpful thank you!

View Quoted Comment What exactly are you speaking about? It has nothing to do with an inability to choose clothing. It’s actually more about the bride being able to fully envision her colors and make sure they all go well together.

View Quoted Comment My ideal look is my girls in black and men in tuxedos! But my FH doesn’t want to be in a tux, enter my problem! Lol

View Quoted Comment I have been reading posts for years. And every once in a while, a bride comes through so set on her vision, that she thinks her being in control in every way matters more than the groom himself. Maybe he wants to choose what he wants for himself and his guys, when he feels like it, whether 9 months out or 3 months out, without being directed by his future wife.
I find it demeaning when someone is supposed to be my partner, and they assume control of my area too, as though I am an impediment to their going ahead, when in fact they are way ahead of the game and simply do not wish to do things in a more reasonable time table for me. Am I incompetent? No. Am I unable to use a calendar to plan a long term event? No. Then if I were the groom in this case I would be waving a great big red slow-down-the-marriage-til we get this straight flag. The future husband is equally part of this. Nagging or pushing someone to move faster when it is not necessary is one issue. Another is how to talk about him. If I talked or posted to anyone as though my husband was a little boy and I just had to see to everything, implying " because he is not able to do it, or too stubborn and won't " he would be humiliated and angry. Reverse things, I would be humiliated and angry. The bride's vision is not a holy thing to which she is entitled. And the groom is not a bit player, to have everything choreographed for him. Half or more brides choose bridesmaid's attire and order it at 4-5 months, without the groom having done planning for his guys. If you are choosing general colors, together, do your BM by that. Figure on his wearing grey, blue, or black, or white or tan if in summer. Unless your colors include orange or red shades, and grey and blue are out, but browns in.
This should be enough for any WP planning that must be done for months and months. ....😗 I think it is not good for brides to write/ say things which make groom sound like a boy incapable of doing things, as in this post. As women, how often is the first time we find we will be less than equal, in the way the other person talks about us? Brides need to allow grooms to be fully half of the team when planning, in terms of the respect they are given in general when and how things will be done. Brides need to think and talk about their grooms, as though they are equal partners, not little boys to be managed. ...OP likely has no idea how she has presented herself and future hubby, in this post. Unless she really is a dominating , obsessive about detail person with a groom who cannot do anything without her direction. And I do not think that is the full story. But how it sounds. To me, because like any poster here, I am writing my opinion.

View Quoted Comment Right and that is the beauty of forums and sharing our opinion. However, for you to assume that I am demanding my future husband to do anything is absurd. So maybe next time ask a question in response instead of just assuming that he is being pushed or nagged. Did you ever think perhaps he was part of the plan?!? No need to respond, your ignorance is bliss and your belief in thinking your experience allows you to assume anything about any bride is also absurd.

View Quoted Comment Yes. Why are you choosing his attire if he has no say on yours? He’s an adult.

View Quoted Comment This is a great response. I think it was clear from your post that this is something you and your fiancé are doing together, so I don't know why you've gotten this kind of pushback.


My husband got his tux from The Black Tux. We started the process before covid, so I don't know exactly what the process is now, but if you live near a showroom that's currently open it might be a good option. He only tried on one suit/tux in his size (the appointment is really just for a fitting) but they had jackets, ties, etc in several other colors, patterns, and materials, so he tried a couple of those on as well so we could see how the color looked on him. We got swatches for each of the suits/tuxes we decided on and I brought them with me when my bridesmaid and I went to choose her dress.

View Quoted Comment Thank you hun, I really appreciate it. I am so shocked at how these woman took an opportunity to try and make me feel bad with this post. It is truly so sad.


Anyway, thanks for that... exactly what I will do and help match suit color with dress swatch. Thanks again, it’s much appreciated.

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Yeah - I'm really sorry that this thread is such a bad representation of these forums. I've noticed that some people are incredibly touchy about specific topics and refuse to add any kind of positive response.

Though I don't understand why people are being absolutely pissy about this in particular. You asked a simple question about your FH trying on clothes - not controlling his life, good lord. Don't listen to these other negative people.

My FH doesn't mind what he wears which is why he's totally fine with me picking the colors that match with our overall theme. And the best way to do that is to see him in it. And guess what (and this may shock some others), he actually wants me to help him.

Here's to hoping other threads aren't as bad

View Quoted Comment Thank you Corrin. 🥰 Here’s to hoping they other threads aren’t the same. Thanks ♥️