Groom or Bride Listed First

It’s your wedding - do as you please.

Personally we did his name first.

It's traditional for the bride's name to go first on wedding stationery.

Ours changes depending on the item we put it on... some looked better with his first and some with mine. The only thing we followed because of the format was wedding invitations.

Traditionally you list the bride first, this dates back to the days when the bride's family would be the one's paying for the whole wedding so her name would be listed first.

In these modern times though you can list your names in whatever order you prefer.

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Traditionally the brides name is first. That’s what we did on our STDs and invitations. But for anything we had that was monogrammmed, we used his name first because we go by “A & B” usually, our first initials. His mom got all our stuff engraved with B & A though which she knew was wrong but whatever 😑

In my opinion Brides name is always first. That is how I have seen it at every wedding I have been to or been invited to.

We're doing my name first, but I mostly like it because it's in alphabetical order that way.

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Then just list whomever first that you prefer.

I know some people still like to stick with the traditional way of listing the bride first regardless of who paid though because that's most common/traditional

View Quoted Comment Ohhhu okay. Thanks! You learn something new every day!

View Quoted Comment Alphabetical order means his name would go first which is the way we did it.

I've seen it both ways and I think either or is perfectly acceptable, so go which whichever you like most!

It makes more sense to me that way, even though it's not traditional. As long as you & your FH like it then go with it

I think usually it is the bride's name but IMO it really doesn't matter.

We did my name first on everything mainly because it flowed better.

Our stationary had my name first, but that's just because we followed the template. My name is Annisa, his is Alex, and for most things his name is going first since it's shorter and sounds better. Go with what feels right for you.

We did my name then his because of alphabetical order and it just sounded better 😂😂

I have been told by a few people the brides name goes first.

I think the tradition is usually that the bride's name is listed first, but of course there are many instances now that this wouldn't be taking place, for example same sex marriages, etc. So I say, do whatever you and your FS would like!!!

You can do whichever name you want first. Traditionally it is the bride's name but it honestly doesn't matter. I did put my name first on ours after remembering something my mom told me years ago when I was addressing a card for another couple getting married. "Put the bride's name first. This is the only time she'll get to have her name first because right or wrong, after the wedding her husband's name will always be put first. " I was young at the time but now that I'm older I've realized how true this is!

Technically Bride's first before marriage, grooms first after marriage. Do as you wish. My parents were very uptight about my name being first, but that's because they paid for the wedding. Many people don't know the proper etiquette and will not care.