Traditionally the brides name is first. That’s what we did on our STDs and invitations. But for anything we had that was monogrammmed, we used his name first because we go by “A & B” usually, our first initials. His mom got all our stuff engraved with B & A though which she knew was wrong but whatever 😑
Our stationary had my name first, but that's just because we followed the template. My name is Annisa, his is Alex, and for most things his name is going first since it's shorter and sounds better. Go with what feels right for you.
I think the tradition is usually that the bride's name is listed first, but of course there are many instances now that this wouldn't be taking place, for example same sex marriages, etc. So I say, do whatever you and your FS would like!!!
You can do whichever name you want first. Traditionally it is the bride's name but it honestly doesn't matter. I did put my name first on ours after remembering something my mom told me years ago when I was addressing a card for another couple getting married. "Put the bride's name first. This is the only time she'll get to have her name first because right or wrong, after the wedding her husband's name will always be put first. " I was young at the time but now that I'm older I've realized how true this is!
Technically Bride's first before marriage, grooms first after marriage. Do as you wish. My parents were very uptight about my name being first, but that's because they paid for the wedding. Many people don't know the proper etiquette and will not care.