Groom not going to tastings?

My FH didn't come to cake tasting but he doesn't like cake so I went with my mom and dad. And then for the catering tasting FH me and FMIL went.

ETA: I think it's fine if you go by yourself. Especially if he needs to save his vacation time.

Can you do the tasting on a day he has off work?

I think it's okay if he doesn't go. Why not have your MOH or a family member come instead?

We would have to fly from TX to NJ, so even scheduling it for a weekend, he'd have to take off the Friday and most likely Monday, so 2 extra days of being out from work, which he's not keen on doing.

I'm bringing my sister who is my MOH along regardless, so I won't be alone. I just didn't know if it was a total 'faux pas' for the groom to not be there.

My DH didn't come to the cake tasting either, and I did that with my mom. Same problem, we live out of state in VA but got married in my home state of FL and it was too expensive/too much time off work for him to come down with me for all of the pre wedding planning trips. No problem at all! He did come to the menu tasting but he loved our cake choices

My FH and I never went to our food tasting. Both of our parents did, because they could get off of work and we couldn't. They actually got some boxed up for us and took it home so we could taste it. I would recommend getting a box of food for the FH. Caterers typically don't mind if it's a box or two for someone important in the Wedding Party (such a the groom).

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You definitely won't be shunned by your vendors! Having your MOH come will be perfect, and it's better for him to save his time for the wedding and honeymoon anyway

There are many of us here in jersey who would join you if you like I'm always down for food teehee

but no no they won't look at you funny but I understand why you'd feel weird.

he is being responsible and trying hard to continue to provide for you, take this as a sign of his dedication to you and your future

No, you won't be shunned by either the baker or the caterer. You are a potential client, a paycheck, an insert into their portfolio, a positive review -- in other words, you're wielding an unusual degree of authority. You're hiring them -- they have to impress you, and they know that. Your FH, for all they know, is a high powered executive who has left every wedding choice in your court. They won't ask, they won't care, and it's all good -- as long as the check clears.

You can even go so far as saying, "Honestly, neither of us care for cake. As professionals, what would you suggest as far as the most popular flavors are concerned?"

At the end of the day, his dental work is far more important and lasting than cake/food tasting. Walk in and approach the tasting as a woman of authority and you'll be treated accordingly.

Traveling that far just for a tasting?! I'm surprised YOU are going! Definitely go without him. Take your mom and dad, sibling, or a trusted friend instead.

Mine didn't come to anything because he lives 5 hours away and he had a crazy work schedule. It's fine, don't stress.

I think it's fine if he doesn't go. For my cousins wedding a few years ago, her and her now husband lived in a different state. Neither of them attended the tasting with the caterer. My aunt, uncle and me went and give them our opinions. It turned out great