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Just Said Yes October 2021

Groom hates being center of attention

J9, on February 23, 2021 at 7:18 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 4

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Hi all,

I hope you are well. I was wondering if anyone can maybe help me with som advice on the following matter. My Fiancé, the groom, does not like being the center of attention at all... Hoe can I make the wedding day better for him so that he doesn't feel overwhelmed? So that he doesn't feel like the center of attention but he still is. For example I really want the photographer to also take photos of him and his best man when they get ready for the big day. How should I approach this? We have already cut down in guest count... We are now at 14 people and that is only closest family...

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on February 24, 2021 at 4:47 PM

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Yasmine · on February 23, 2021 at 8:08 AM
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My husband is the same exact way. He took some shots with his bestfriend before our minimony and that definitely helped calm him. I'm positive he will do the same for our upcoming big wedding as well. I think that maybe he will feel more comfortable since your guest list is so small. You can have the photographer get random shots as well that way your husband can continue as if the photographer isn't there rather than posing.
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Expert September 2021
· on February 23, 2021 at 8:15 AM
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I'm normally not one for a first look but it may be really helpful for him in this situation! It may really take some of the pressure off of him if he sees you beforehand, without everyone looking at him to see his reaction. I would also suggests some liquid courage LOL. My fiancé is somewhat the same way - he has blocked a conference room at our hotel for the day of/getting ready for him and his guys and they will absolutely be drinking some and eating and goofing off. I think that will really ease the stage fright!
As far as the photographer, try to let her/he know beforehand and they will try to make him more comfortable. My fiancé doesn't love having pictures made, our photographer brought him beer during the engagement shoot and he thought it was fun and hilarious -really broke the ice!
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Mrs. Spring · on February 23, 2021 at 8:17 AM
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I think you have done enough. The next best tging to do is consider eloping.
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Lynnie · on February 24, 2021 at 4:47 PM
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This is all such good advice!!
I also think it's all about the tone you set for the wedding day! If you keep things calm, intimate, and authentic you'll both stay centered. 💕 I'd also opt for more candid, photojournalistic photography so things feel more natural and less staged!
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