Groom Driving Bride CRAZY!!!!!!! Anyone else have this happen?

He's probably stressed about something- I'm thinking money, what with a property up for sale and the wedding coming up. Talk it out, give him some grace, and just be there for him when he needs to vent.

Stress is a bitch and he's stressed. Perhaps the two of you should take an evening or day to spend together with nothing wedding related allowed to be discussed.

I am sorry he flipped out. but once he breaths you need to have a sit down and discuss all of them. those hates didnt happen over night. they my be exagerations but you needa sort it out to avoid resentment issues.

Is it unusual for him to act like that? It does sound like he's stressed, but I would be a lot more concerned if he acts like this often.

You sure you aren't talking about my H? Good god he drives me nuts 90% of the time. And we're already married! Haha

Great that you got all of that out but now you have uncover his real pain so that you guys can fix what the real problem is

Yeah - he's super stressed, wedding just adding to it, and all the stuff that goes along with it... We've talked his stress issues out multiple times over the years, he does have an anxiety disorder, but has never had a major lash out like this before. It'll all get talked out - communication has never an issue with us - we're good at talking things out... But DUDE - I'm sorry but I have to blink my eyes sometime and yes, I have to pee every now and then too!

AANNND of course, he just called, all nice and calm AND asking what's for dinner :slaps forehead:

Lol your FH is like me. I'm like that; sometimes just complain and bitch about the most random things ever. Usually my FH leaves me alone for me to calm down on my own. I think that's what your FH just did

Thanks Sarah - exactly what he did... He needed to get out of the house LOL.

And he's frustrated at his guys, we're having an off-beat wedding.. thus not the regular tux deal... and because of this, they have to get there asses over to our place and we have to get them set up with what they'll be wearing... . Well, they come over, but not by themselves, so nothing gets done as it turns into this big party on the boat type of deal with all these people... It's like herding cats....

The other frustration point for him is that the reception is at a friends house, he cant "see" the final result from all the decorating that's being done to transform the place from "home" to "French Palace Marie Antoinette style" and thinks its just going to be like any other party over there... and I do understand his concerns about that...

But budget is budget and the space was free - if you were that upset over this decision, then you should have been firm about that MONTHS ago!! This is not just "my" day after all... it's "OUR" day!

We've had parties there with 200 people in and out! And there is going to be half of that there that night. He doesn't grasp the concept that the guests DO get that this is not just another party there... they know it's a wedding celebration/reception...

He doesn't believe me when I say that because the place is going to be transformed (even with going over all the details with him) or that the DJ will announce all the different events (garter/bouquet toss - cake cut blah blah) that this will only help reinforce "this isnt just another party here".

And while yes, some people may miss some things... that happens even at a reception hall. Case in point, the last wedding we went to, we missed the cake cutting and both the tosses along with everyone else who was talking and out on the balcony of the reception site LOL.

Then there's the belief that there are a lot of people that have their weddings these days, let alone their receptions at a persons home. In his mind, a wedding and reception is done all at one place, and anything else is out of the norm. Again, even tho the last wedding we went to was in two different places with about a 20/30 min drive between the two. Ours is about a 30 min drive.. we live in Tampa FL on the Bay, and the ceremony is over on the gulf side. But here, it's about a 30 drive to get anywhere even in Tampa LOL, people are use to it. Shrugs.

Men...

I just needed to vent more than anything else, and know that I wasn't alone with a freaked out FH and I sincerely appreciate EVERYONE's thoughts and advise on this thread!!! Made me feel a whole lot better!!!

But he was all good by the time he came home last night, and I'll be making sure to try to ease his mind again about everything today.

Can he do something to blow steam off?

My FH is 110% involved in our wedding planning. He is planning and I am his little helper. LMAAOOOO! ( I cant stop laughing when I say that!) He is WAY MORE organized than I am so he deals with finances, organization, and just big stuff. I am basically his assistant he is also VERY particular about how he wants things done ( basically everything in life, he is a perfectionist ) so you can only imagine how upset he gets if I am "not doing a darn thing" I used to get upset, but now I don't care. I dealt with invitations, addresses, seating chart, basically all the darn research that had to be done... but somehow he still thinks I don't do anything.

I think as long as he's not calling YOU a bitch, he's just stressed about everything. Could be cold feet. Take a night away from wedding and financial stuff and just be together

I agree with @nikki!

LOL Tamara - I'm the detailed oriented perfectionist of the two of us when it comes to stuff like this... then he is the detailed/get it done quickly type of person on other things. Right now the two ways of "getting stuff done" are clashing. We're both self employed, and he was going to take a couple weeks to go up to NC to visit his daughter prior to the wedding, so didn't take on any projects.. so there he sits, home.. nothing to do... but doesn't want to help... but wants to bitch. THAT he's happy to do all the live long day. I swear he's like an old woman sometimes. It actually makes me laugh (MOST of the time) LOLOLOL.

This sounds like me from 5:30am-8am Monday-Friday (before I've had my coffee) and sometimes on weekends.

Any updates?

Haha my FH is the same way. For me though is that I just let him go crazy and then give him some time to breathe. That's always best for the both of us.