Groom already stressing out

You have a good amount of time to plan. I felt similar when we chose a date, but I relaxed after a few weeks. And be sure the wedding is good enough for you too. It's as much about you as it is about her.

Hi William, my now husband and I felt the same way. To be honest, we both didn't handle it well initially (didn't communicate to each other that we were stressed) and that just led to constantly fighting about EVERYTHING. We hit a breaking point and talked and realized we were both stressed about making sure the other has the best day that we didn't take into consideration what we both want. Here's what worked for us: 1. We made a list of must haves and fine to skip items. 2. We got on the same page about size of the wedding (I wanted to elope, he wanted a big wedding, we landed at 50 guests). The size of the wedding was stressing both of us out because I was trying to find a way to embrace a big wedding and he was trying to accept a tiny one. 3. We figured out each others strengths for something this big. I do better at research so I basically found everyone and narrowed every vendor to two or three. He is better at making decisions so he then did his thing. 4. Most importantly, communicated to each other exactly what was stressful and came up with solutions right away.

These worked for us and soon the wedding planning stress eased. We also planned a lot of things super early so the last 6 months of the engagement was more relaxed.

We didn't have family help but from friends who did have some family help, we learned that's not always the best case. Too many opinions come into play. If you're stressed, talk to her about exactly what is bothering you before you bring in the family help.

You have plenty of time. Just breathe, everything will be fine. At the end of the day all that matters is that you're marrying your best friend!

Hi William! Luckily you have plenty of time to plan an absolutely beautiful wedding! If you are feeling overwhelmed, you absolutely need to communicate that with your fiancé. Don't let communication suffer. You are not alone, wedding planning can be very overwhelming at times. Make a list of what needs to get done, and keep track of what you do and when; you'll be amazed at how much that little thing can lower your stress level. And of course the community here on WW is always here to help you!

Thanks for all the encouragement. My future wife understood where I'm coming from and the MIL is helping with drawing up a theme and venues for the wedding. The funny is that I had a dream about the wedding. And it was absolutely gorgeous. From the ceremony, to realizing the 15+ year dream has come true. I can't wait to marry my best friend

You have time.. just take each thing one at time and just breathe.. everything will turn out great!! Congratulations to you and your future wife

Take it one thing at a time.... everything will work out don't stress enjoy the talks and decided on things with your FH it's fun

It's nice to see the groom excited and involved in the process with his vision. One step at a time and breathe. You got this.

My wedding is a week after yours .. I'm so ovewelmed ... I can't decide on decor and am freaking out because we are paying for all of our decor I want to start soon .... my FH is not worried at all ... I love that you being the groom your concerned(sorry that you feel stressed thought ) .. I wish he was lol he just says I trust you you have good taste lol

My fiancé has told me he's worried about the same thing, and as a result has left everything up to me. I love him for the sentiment, but if your bride feels anything like me, none of this really matters anymore. I dreamed about my wedding day until the minute he popped the question. Now I just dream about marrying him. Just communicate and you'll be okay!

You have alot of time. Take a step back and just breathe. Things will work out

Another stressed groom named William getting married in the second half of 2018. Here is my secret, PLAN. From my experience all the stress and anxiety come from the uncertainty and unknowns, so as you solve the unknowns the stress and anxiety reduce, just keep solving till you feel better.

View Quoted Comment Wow this is so spot on with my fiancé and myself! Except he wants small and intimate and I want my friends to come- we compromised with 75 I think because his family is bigger than mine and my family is more chosen