Grandparents Who Can't Come to dw

I would just speak to them personally and not send an invite.

Send the invitations, but call them and tell them that you have no expectation of their attendance. A lot of people keep invitations from people who are close to them (especially kids and grandkids)

So my FH's grandparents live in Germany, as do his aunt and uncles. When we were having the wedding where we currently live, it was a definite no from them (Wichita, KS isn't exactly a hopping metropolis). But then we decided on San Diego for a destination wedding, and it was more of a maybe according to his mom.

Ultimately FH Skyped each overseas relative and told them what our new plan was and asked them if they thought they would be able to come. They each said no, but still requested a Save the Date and invitation (he's the first grandkid to get married).

So we had a personal conversation with those that we didn't think would be able to come and sent them the cards anyway. Our honeymoon is also being specifically planned so we can see his family and celebrate with them, so maybe you could take a trip to see your grandparents after the wedding?

I think they'll want an invite, like Becky said, even if they can't come!

I agree with Becky! I would definitely still send them invitations, but also reach out personally on the phone to let them know that you obviously understand their travel limitations!!

Or if you really want to add an extra note you could handwrite a small note that says something like "We understand you'll probably need to celebrate from afar, but you'll be in our hearts and minds the whole day!" Also letting them know about any of those extra details you'll be doing (like sending wedding day photos) will help the conversation.

Hi ! It was clear from the beggining that my grandma and my dad wouldn't be attending my wedding as I live in another country. But they really wanted to have the invitation as a souvenir...