This is a spin on a question I’m sure has been asked too many times - but I can’t find anything with a specifically religious factor.
I grew up traditional Catholic, Grandma is still Catholic. I stopped going to church seven years ago, and Grandma has always hated that and has given me grief over it. Randomly, two and a half years ago I was at her house for a family dinner. They all prayed out loud before dinner and I bowed my head, clasped my hands, closed my eyes to be respectful. She elbowed me to get me to speak/pray but I didn’t budge. One hour later and we were outside as I showed her my new car. She then asked me why I didn’t pray, I responded that I didn’t do that anymore, and she super randomly said “OK. Well I’m not coming to your wedding. I just thought you should know.”
I wasn’t engaged, there was no talk of engagement at that time, etc. She was just holding onto that to spite me for a completely unrelated situation. Fast forward to now - our relationship is strained. I stopped going over there (she’s told me I was going to hell before, too), I see her maybe twice a year, and I just don’t prioritize her as part of my life. We have an engagement party at the end of September for immediate family and close friends. I told my mom that my grandparents are invited since they’re not on Facebook. She said she’d tell them, but I’ve been engaged for 2 months now and they’ve never called. I don’t think I really expect them to show up to the party.
I suspect most of you will tell me I should call them and personally invite them, and I’m totally willing to do that, but will it change anything? What would be the point if we’re not close anymore? Our wedding will be in Hawaii, and Grandpa refuses to fly, so I know they won’t attend. I’m just not sure what I think about it all and want your opinions.