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Master May 2018

Grad school and wedding planning

the Grooms, on September 14, 2016 at 10:55 AM Posted in Planning 0 74
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Happy Wednesday everyone! Are there any brides/grooms going to grad school during your engagement? How are you handling both? I'm wanting to start in January with a masters in nursing education program, do you think I'm putting too much on my plate. I'm planning 95% of the wedding with FH chipping in about 5%. I was originally going to wait, but still have over a year and half until wedding and then a 18 month program. Just seems so long for my career goals.

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  • FutureMrsMaidenName
    VIP August 2017
    FutureMrsMaidenName ·
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    Only you know the answer to this, but I would advise having a serious talk with FH about what this is going to mean for you two.

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  • Whitta
    Super November 2016
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    I am! I actually put Grad school on hold for this semester since it's crunch time for the wedding. I am going to start back in January. However, you may be able to handle it since you have a longer engagement!

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  • Alicia
    Dedicated April 2018
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    I am in grad school right now but my program takes 3 years so putting it off was not really an option. We chose a longer engagement so that we would have time and I don't think it will really interfere with wedding planning.

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  • Rafittah
    Devoted April 2018
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    I currently am! I got engaged after I had completed a year of grad school. When we started talking about a date I asked FH if he would be fine with doing it after I graduated bc I knew if I did it before something would be affected whether it was me not being able to focus on school or not being able to plan a wedding I wanted. He agreed and it gives us time to save money. To be honest sometimes it does get a little much. I work full time and then take 2 classes every semester including summer sessions. It leaves little time for wedding planning. I'll hopefully be graduating december of 2017.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    I was originally going to wait until after we got married, but for the past week that's all I'm thinking about

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  • Rachel946
    Savvy October 2016
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    I am! Personally, I think it's ridiculous to put your career on hold for a one day event. Yes, wedding planning takes time, but I think dealing with both school and planning is doable, especially with over a year to prepare for the big day. But, that being said, it also completely depends on your personal situation. Are you mainly just concerned about not having enough time to do everything?

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  • Swin.
    Master June 2016
    Swin. ·
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    I did! I planned while in school and now I'm married while in school. I think it's all about setting weekly goals and getting stuff done when it needs to be done!

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    FH supports whatever I want to do. Which would mean going to part time at work, which isn't a big deal for budget.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    The time to do both is the concern

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    It's comforting to see others have/are doing it as well.

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  • Jaimee
    Master October 2019
    Jaimee ·
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    FH and I are applying for grad programs right now! Our programs should be two years each. I'm going for my Master's in creative writing, he's going for continental philosophy. We're hoping for better job opportunities from their completion. I'd be networking with poets, authors, and publishers for my work and him having at least a master's could get him an assistant professor job; he wants his doctorate overall, though, so he can have his own classroom.

    It'll be challenging to save money for us, but we're both able to work on top of school; even small odd jobs, if need be. We just have careers in mind that an undergrad degree doesn't provide us with good opportunities, unfortunately. We're both substitute teachers right now, which we love doing, but in NY, we can only take so many jobs and can't be considered for long term assignments unless we get certified.

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  • ATLBride
    Expert November 2016
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    I am! I am in my final year of getting a PhD (in chemistry, no less!) If you are worried about time management, make sure you have at least a day of coordinator. Our venue coordinator has gone above and beyond my expectations and is handling most of our big vendors (caterer/baker, DJ, decor). And my FH and mom have been super helpful, we've done a good job so far of getting things done in a timely manner and keeping stress levels down. It largely depends on you, how you handle stress, and if you'll have some support to help with wedding planning.

    I try my best to keep wedding related tasks reserved for weekends, but as we get closer and closer to the date, I can't help myself. I mean, I'm on WW forums right now when I should really be working... but when else could I be looking up parent's gifts, right?! It doesn't help that I'm experiencing some intense senioritis, and my advisor is pretty chill.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
    the Grooms ·
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    WW forums can be addictive

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  • Rafittah
    Devoted April 2018
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    Like PP have mentioned your time management skills are important. You might have to have specific parts of your day dedicated to either wedding, school, or work. At the end of the day it is doable, but not going to lie I've only been 3 months in with wedding planning and it gets frustrating at points because all I want to do is focus on my wedding and I have little time to do that with work and school.

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  • the Grooms
    Master May 2018
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    That's one thing I worry about is focusing more on wedding than school, lol

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  • future_mrs_c2018
    Super October 2017
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    I won't be in grad school (I'm young and still haven't completed my associates degree) that being said I want to get my AA before we get married however not sure how attainable this is

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  • Dana993
    Super November 2016
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    I am! I work full time, go to grad school part time, and am planning a wedding. I just finished up summer semester and am taking fall semester off while I'm super busy with wedding and honeymooning. It has been difficult and I've had to sacrifice a lot of time with friends but it is totally doable. As long as have good time management you will be okay.

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  • #ItsBeardTime
    VIP March 2017
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    FH and I didn't get engaged until after I finished my graduate degree. If he would have asked while I was in school I would have said no. I made a commitment to finish my education and once your engaged all everyone asks is "when are you getting married." I didn't want the pressure while I was so busy in school.

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  • Jessica
    Dedicated July 2017
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    My fiancé and I are in grad school togetherSmiley smile we have been working full time and going to school during the week and wedding planning on weekends. My program is only a year but I am stretching it out to lighten my class load so I can handle everything at once.

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  • Private User
    Super December 2016
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    I'm finishing up my bachelors degree in music therapy (I'll graduate 2 weeks before the wedding) ... But a bachelors is very different from a masters Smiley smile I also only work part time.

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