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Got my engagement photos back and i feel way insecure about them.....

Shae, on November 16, 2020 at 2:09 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 2 62
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So I want to preface by saying I love my photographers and they did a fantastic job with what they had to work with. I just cant help but feel fat, frumpy, and pale in my photos. I think the poses had the right idea but just not made for a girl my size and I really did not know this until after the fact. Since I am very curvy some of the poses came off kind of maternity like. I chose an awful dress that initially looked better in the mirror when I wore it then it did when I was photographed in it. I felt like I had a double chin in several photos. I know I have gained some weight in the past year due to stressor (deployment, job loss, pandemic, moving, etc.) but these photos really emphasized to me HOW much weight I have put on. I do like some photos but even those ones I feel the need to edit myself for it to be social media acceptable. I just do not know what to do....I need advice or a pick me up right now....


Got my engagement photos back and i feel way insecure about them..... 1


Got my engagement photos back and i feel way insecure about them..... 2


Got my engagement photos back and i feel way insecure about them..... 3


Got my engagement photos back and i feel way insecure about them..... 4


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Latest activity by Christine, on November 22, 2020 at 8:34 PM
  • A
    Expert September 2020
    Alli
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    Don鈥檛 be so hard on yourself! It鈥檚 been one heck of a year for almost everyone. The third picture is stunning! I think the first picture is possibly maternity material, but the rest are cute! It looks like you were trying to incorporate your new home? We, your audience, are not familiar with how you looked pre-pandemic so we won鈥檛 be able to comment on that aspect. 馃
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring
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    Wow we are our own worst critics. I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not a big fan of my own pictures either.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle
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    They鈥檙e all so gorgeous!
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  • M
    Super October 2022
    Michele
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    You look stunning! Everyone is critical of their own photos.
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  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
    Shelly
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    I think these photos are beautiful and that you look amazing in them! Smiley heart

    I understand where you're coming from, and my heart goes out to you. I got our sneak peeks back from our engagement session and I couldn't help but feel the same way you just described. I've gained weight during my relationship, and I struggle with finding the beauty that my FH sees. We can be critical on our looks and judge ourselves so harshly. I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but please know that you are gorgeous and look stunning in these photos!

    If this is the same photographer you will have for your wedding, don't be afraid to give feedback! Let them know what angles you didn't like being shot in, what poses you felt more comfortable and lovely in, and any other feedback that will help!

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online
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    I personally do not think these photos turned out bad at all - actually, especially the last two, I think they turned out super cute! I think my favorite is the third one. They're your photos though, and your opinion is what matters most - if you don't like them, maybe reach out to your photographer to see if they're willing to retake them for you?
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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you for the compliment. Sometimes getting outside perspective helps get me out of my own judgemental brain! lol

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you, I really appreciate the compliment and feedback. And yes it will be the same photographer. I think they're brilliant and I could see what they were going for, I just have a tendency of picking myself apart until I literally cant find anything good anymore.

    And I am definitely glad we at least got the experience of an engagement photo so I know what angles and poses to use or avoid for the wedding day! And maybe a starting point to get back into shape again!

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you for your feedback, it really does help! Unfortunately I wouldn't be able to redo my photos since my fiance is now deployed until June 2021 and we are moving that same month to a different state... (oh military life....) lol

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  • Shelly
    Rockstar January 2022
    Shelly
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    Totally get that. It's tough to not point out flaws when looking at photos of yourself. That's the great thing about engagement shoots, it gives you some practice in front of the camera before your wedding day and also is a good starting ground when figuring out wedding day poses/prompts with your photographer.

    Our photos def. helped push me into going back to the gym! A good goal to set is to work out at least 3x a week. After a few weeks of keeping that up, it will start to become routine and second nature.

    Good luck with wedding planning, and remember that the most important person to be kind to is yourself. Smiley heart

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  • Marissa
    Expert October 2020
    Marissa
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    Girl, you look so pretty!!!! I actually love the dress that you picked out and your makeup looks amazing! Smiley heart I also hate when my photo is taken, but photographers have that special eye/skill to help make you look stunning. I would definitely discuss with them what angles/poses you would like to have for your wedding day.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine Online
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    I think they're pretty!

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  • L
    Dedicated September 2021
    Lw Online
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    Girl, same. Plus FH is making weird faces in the ones that I don鈥檛 look bad in. Honestly, we are only using a select few from the session and I don鈥檛 feel like it鈥檚 the photographers fault either. Some are going to be artfully cropped as well. I think your photos look great! I totally understand where you are coming from though
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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie
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    I really like the one of you two walking, you look great! Are there more where you're standing? Either way, now you know for the wedding day!

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you! And yes, I am actively working on not picking myself apart...

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you thats very sweet of you!

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you! You're so nice! And I definitely will. At least now I know what I do and don't like

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thanks! And that is my favorite one too so far. There are more standing photos but they all kind of made me feel really fat not going to lie. Im truly regretting my dress, it did nothing for my figure...

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  • Shae
    Savvy October 2021
    Shae
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    Thank you!Smiley heart

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy
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    I鈥檓 sorry you feel how you do. I think the third picture is gorgeous and the fourth one is super cute too! You don鈥檛 look pale at all. You have beautiful skin! My daughter just called me because she got her engagement pictures today and she was saying the same things. We are all so hard on ourselves. If you are really unhappy with them maybe ask for another session and tell her the poses you like and don鈥檛 like. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
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