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tiffany, on April 4, 2012 at 10:10 PM

I posted this is a thread earlier and I been thinking of this all day. Please tell me what you guys think. Would this be too much. I know some grooms feel like the wedding is all about the bride so I want him to feel just as special. My FH family was in a bad car wreck 12 years ago and lost his mom...

My FH family was in a bad car wreck 12 years ago and lost his mom and a brother. So growing up what should of been a family of 5 was a family of 3. At the ceremony, in the chair next to where his dad will be sitting, I will have a decorated chair with flowers (maybe a mini bouquet) and a framed 8x10 picture of her. I could think of anything for his brother who was 3 at the time so at the reception I will have a larger family picture of them sitting on an easel. He doesn't know that I am doing this so it will be a surprise for him that I know him and his family will love.

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Dedicated April 2013
tiffany · on April 5, 2012 at 1:00 PM
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My calculations are off. This was 19 years ago because he was going on 6 when this happened. His father has remarried twice since then (Not saying he forgot about her) so I am not sure what he still has. Not saying he forgot about her. I do know he has a picture of her in his wallet that I am not sure he has to see everyday so I dont think seeing and empty chair with a flower will be hard for him. The poeple on his mom side stays in a small town so I doubt if many of them will make it but they will definitely get an invitation. I know his dad will be fine with it. I just texted him and his dad and asked "What would you think if you walked in to a formal event and saw an empty chair?" They both replied somebody paid for too many chairs. That let me know that they probably want even no what is going on which is great because I'm not doing it for everybody I am doing it for him. The name on the ribbon will not be big and clearly visible. It will be something that I will have to show him.
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Marie S. (aka Princess Leia) · on April 5, 2012 at 4:00 PM
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Are you sure your FFIL would want to sit next to those decorated chairs? I would be mortified if I had to sit next to that and would be even more upset based on that vague text...

have a picture of the mom & brother set aside with a candle on seperate table but ONLY if the FH & FFIL both agree...
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tiffany · on April 5, 2012 at 4:27 PM
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I asked FFIL and he loved that idea. He doesn't HAVE to sit next to it and it will not purposely be sat by him. It will be the end seat on the front row and second row. So it will next to who ever sit there. I am not doing the picture anymore because I realize that might be a little too much. The chair will look like all the other chairs in the ceremony just with some flowers sitting in it. I want to have a little ribbon that has their name. In order for someone to see the name they will have to pickup the flowers and be playing around with it. I dont want it to be obvious that someone that should be sitting here has passed away.
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