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Super October 2020

Going over budget

Emma, on March 6, 2020 at 11:12 AM Posted in Planning 0 15
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I am 20 years old, in school, and work full time, same with my fiancé other than he’s 22. Long story short, my dad is paying for our wedding. I am overly thankful for him wanting to pay for it. Now the dilemma, my mom. So my mom what’s about 15 extra people at the wedding, done of those who I could do without. But I’m not allowed to remove them because my patents are paying for the wedding. Now because of the extra people I am about $2,000 over budget. Knowing my father he would be mad if we went ahead and used our credit cards to cover it. Im trying to find away to ask for the extra money because of the extra guest. If it weren’t for them, we’d be only $500 over budget, which I could cover. How do I go about this? I don’t want to sound greedy or selfish. I’m so so thankful for my parents help. The only thing me and my fiancé can think of is asking my father if we could pay him back after the wedding. Tips?

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Latest activity by Fenja, on March 6, 2020 at 2:46 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I guess you could try to see if there’s things you could shave off such as are you having an open bar? Cut it down to wine and beer only and that could help. But ultimately it sounds like because it’s their guests they would be willing to cover the overage for?
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    Master January 2015
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    I definitely would not ask your dad for any more money. You may have to cut down on your guest list or make cuts elsewhere to stay under budget.

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    Your mom should really be covering the overage, since it's her additions to the guest list that are causing you to go over budget.

    Can you sit down with her, and explain that you would like to accommodate her, you just don't have the money for 15 extra people? Tell her that if she would like to cover the cost of those 15 extra, then you'd be happy to add them to the guest list. Otherwise, there is no room in the budget for that many additional people.

    Another alternative is asking her to narrow that list down, to maybe 5. That would be a lot more reasonable than 15.

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    Emma ·
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    We already are doing beer and wine only. I’ve cut cost as much as possible to figure this out.
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    Melle ·
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    I like what cristy suggested in trying to see if they can cut their list down a bit more at least where it would make it more reasonable BUT i do also think they should be covering the overage since it’s because of them it’s over budget
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    Emma ·
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    My mom and dad are both still married, so her covering it is really him covering it. A lot of the problem is she wants family there that I either don’t know, or don’t like. I can’t stand my uncles or their wife’s because of the way they treated us growing up and because all they cared about was the money when my grandparents, their parents, died. I feel like I shouldn’t have to invite people to my wedding that I want to punch 😂
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    Emma ·
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    I can’t cut it down any further, I’ve cut down 2 times, and have cut cost in every way possible. The problem is her guest that I “have to” invite.
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    Emma ·
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    I think that’s just what I’m going to have to do. I’ll be going over to my parents to talk about it and see what exactly can be done tomorrow.
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    Master January 2015
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    If you truly have to invite them and there's NO way around it, you may just have to restructure your wedding plans. Like instead of having a sit-down dinner, have your reception at non-meal time and only serve cake, drinks, and maybe some light snacks. Or opt for a cheap/free venue like a local park, church, rec center, something along those lines. There's always ways to cut down if you absolutely have to do so.

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    Emma ·
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    Our venue is already booked so no way of changing that, as well as the caterer. We are already doing a buffet dinner. Everything was sign and deposits were paid before the added guest.
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    Legend June 2019
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    Best of luck to you ! Hope it works out
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    Emma ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    "Hey, mom and dad, because of those 15 extra people you added to the guest list we are $2,000 over budget. Do you still want to invite them?".

    One of 3 things will happen. They will say yes and tell you to cut back elsewhere to get back on budget. They will come up with the extra money. OR they will say no and those 15 won't be invited. Simple as that.

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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
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    In this case, I would just sit down with the both of them and say, "hey, I know mom wants "x" people, but if that would put us $2k over budget, what do we think the best way to move forward is?" Since your parents are still married and willing to cover the cost, it's kind of up to them to figure out whether to cut those people or go over budget.

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  • Fenja
    VIP August 2021
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    This! Since they are their guests and not yours, they should cover the cost if they want them there or help you to restructure the wedding budget.

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