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Going Anon - Vent about Ex bf

Tamara, on October 24, 2020 at 1:00 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8
I need to get this of my chest. Long story short:


Couple years ago I left my family, friends, and work, to be with my LDR bf in PA. Everything seems great for almost a year. We went to school together, so knew a bit of him and his family. I literally gave up my stable life in LA. Only a couple weeks later a friend to me and alarmed me he was trying to flirt with her. When he came from work I confronted, and he admitted his act. I packed my bags and flew back to my hometown the next day while he was at work. He had history of cheating, and that was a slap on my face. I was blinded by love, so badly I ignored all the red flags.
Fast forward, I got into a new relationship over a year after the terrible break up. I admit, I love my fiancé but I am still haven’t move on 100% from the pain. I often remember about the past. Sometimes I feel lucky I got out, sometimes I feel like crying because of the pain the betrayal caused me. I did went to therapy. It helped but not 100%.
I recently got engaged and maybe ex heard it from friends. He called me a few times using no caller id, asking for forgiveness and asking me back. FYI: He had a few short relationships after me. He just has so many flaws, it’s going to be tough to find someone who loves him unconditionally. I hope he quit contacting me and my bestie to tell me he wants me back. My fiancé didn’t know he is trying to reach me. I am just afraid ex is going to stress me out with this constant calling. I changed my number today.
Vent over.

8 Comments

Latest activity by Mrs.a, on October 25, 2020 at 12:50 AM
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    If he finds your number out again, tell him to leave you alone, you do not wish to speak to him anymore. If he persists talk to the police about stalking.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I would definitely tell my fiancé about something like that though so it won't seem like you are actually conversing with your ex. And just being honest with him. But if you ex had infidelity issues in the past, definitely leave him in the past as well and don't let him mess up your future
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  • Samantha
    Devoted September 2020
    Samantha ·
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    He is reaching out I’m sure because he has heard. If you guys never talked and explained why you left... never one of you is going to have that closer and it’s going to become a problem. Eventually your fiancé will find out he is calling and it will probably be worse if he sees him calling as no caller id versus you telling him what happened.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Sounds like you should be fine now with the new phone number since he won’t be able to call.
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  • Day
    Expert July 2021
    Day ·
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    I recommend you have an open conversation with your fiancé about it. If your ex hurt you and had the nerve to harass your peace, your fiancé should be the one who supports you 100%. Don’t keep secrets because if Mr. Ex shows up or learns of your new number, issues may ensue with your fiancé.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    This is definitely a conversation that needs to be had with your fiancé. If it was me & my fiancé didn’t tell me, I would start to wonder what else has not been said.
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  • Christine
    Dedicated October 2020
    Christine ·
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    Venting is a good way to get things off your chest and sometimes out of your system. I pray for your sanity that that is the end of that. Smiley smile

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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Can you block his number?
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