Gofundme or not?

Absolutely not. Have a wedding that you can afford.

Absolutely not (sorry to say), but gofundme has been abused in my opinion. I have two sides to it as I feel people have the right to donate to whatever they would like to, BUT you may get some backlash ESPECIALLY from your guests. There are cheaper ways to go about it. We got tons of stuff from michaels and handmade everything. Their birdhouses are 5 bucks a piece and I painted them for my tables. Fake flowers, on sale. Party favors can be little baggies of M&Ms or not even do one at all... I have been to a few without. Ask people for help. I think doing the gofundme is going to give you a lot of grief. A wedding does not have to fulfill certain expectations and those that cant go all out due to financial reasons just find alternatives. A couple I know had theirs at a nice restaurant with a dance floor for half the cost.

ALSO: Ask on the forums for CHEAP DIY suggestions and what others have done to work on a budget. You will get a ton of help. I am also making all my own place cards using card stock and scrapbooking paper. ZAZZLE has 60% off sales and makes the invites and RSVPS virtually free lol. You can make STD invites at CVS or cheap during a discount day on a site.

Definitely not. Gofundme should be for raising money for something that is a necessity in an emergency situation. A wedding is an optional party.

That's a bad idea. GoFundMe is for people who actually need money for important things they cannot afford, like surgeries and medication. Nobody needs a wedding. Save up for it like the rest of us and go to the courthouse.

This is a bad idea. Why have a wedding or plan one if you can’t afford it?
You could always pay for a courthouse wedding if you don’t want a long engagement and then later on have a wedding of your dreams.
Good luck. Hope it works the way you want it to.

Don't. You can get married for under $100. The rest is a big party, not a charity, natural disaster, personal medical or legal crisis bankrupting you with bills. Parties you pay for yourself. Lots of people work lots of extra hours at their jobs or a second one, just to survive. Others, like us, to afford school or luxuries like a wedding reception. Have the party you can afford, or earn money to pay for more. The first thing Gofundme does when you open a funding campaign is to ask you for email addresses of friends and family. Then they check online for anyone linked to you, the names and addresses in your contact lists, social media, anything. And they send them all an email, and do it repeatedly ( I received 4-5 for two campaigns) . This says essentially, did you know this person is trying to raise money for this cause on GFM? And a link. You are essentially starting by hitting up everyone you know it ever linked to you, which may include your boss, both your parents,coworkers or previous ones, anyone you were ever on a list with. Most people consider things like Jack and Jill parties held to raise funds from your friends, for your wedding, to be tacky, tacky, tacky. And Gofundme takes 3% of your donations including a transaction fee. People will look down on you for asking for handouts for a party. Earn it, or scale back the numbers or the type of party. Or marry at City Hall or the Courthouse. At least maintain the respect of people you know.

No, that is quite rude. I recommend you have a wedding within your financial means or go to your county courthouse.

Hard no. Have the wedding that you can afford. Gofundme’s are for fundraising and charities, not to pay for your party. This is absurd.

Either cut things out or don’t have a wedding, at least now - just wait until you two have saved enough money. I don’t think this is ok at all and I don’t think most people would take it well.

Definitely would no do that. Instead of asking for friends and family to fund your wedding maybe you could have a longer engagement to save for the day? Also, as far as decorations go sometimes it’s cheaper to hire a coordinator. They will handle your design and have everything needed for the decorations but the fresh flowers (if you’re having them). We have a 23 month engagement so we have time to save and pay for the wedding instead of going in debt. We are paying for the entire thing 100% ourselves. Rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception.

Nope nope nope. It’s your responsibility to pay for your wedding unless someone else offers some money.

No. It’s tacky. People will find it rude. You’re unlikely to get any donations and it will only serve to annoy your friends/family.

That's a hard no.

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