
So my friend took her daughters to get shoes for my wedding. The one has black closed toe wedges which are adorable and will look fine with her dress. The other one got these. I was in the shower when she sent the message. She didn't wait for a yay or nay and bought them anyway. My wedding is december 19th. I saw the message and said no to those because number one they're not right for the time of year, number 2 they're ugly. My friend said they liked them plus the daughter could wear them for her wedding in September. Which makes me think she bought them for her own wedding and not mine. The girls dress hits the top of her feet so whatever shoes she has will show. My friend told me i was being a monster bride so i said i wanted to see them with the dress and would go from there. They didn't look right and stuck out like a sore thumb. She called me a bridezilla and said she would not do a dark shoe for the girl. After she left i sent her a message (i didnt want to do it in front of the kids) and explained my reasoning. I was polite but firm and reminded her that this is my wedding, and if she wants her daughter to wear those shoes to her own wedding that is fine and i would support it 100%. I said there are other options and other shoe stores, and that we would find something suitable. I really don't think I'm being unreasonable. Am i?