Hi, I am having a very small wedding on Saint Patrick's day, so less than two weeks away. We're getting married in a park, only parents and siblings present as attendees, it will be very very small. Nothing fancy, just a 15 minute ceremony. We're getting married on Saint Patrick's day because it's our dating anniversary and we really wanted to keep that date as our wedding anniversary.
My grandmother, who lives across the country, was just admitted to the hospital for a few different things that can be pretty bad for someone her age. I am really, really hoping she will be stabilized and recover as much as possible but I'm not sure. She's almost 90, frail, and my grandfather, her husband, passed away two months ago. She's been healthy her whole life but the last couple years, and especially since my grandpa died, she's not been doing very well. I can't even talk to her, because she is not ready to really talk to anyone except from her children (my dad, aunt and uncles), and the last thing I want to do is make her uncomfortable.
One thing that came across my mind is, what should I do if she passes away soon? Is it bad luck or bad taste to keep the wedding date if it is in close proximity to a death in the family? Is it bad to have a wedding, albeit very small and bare bones, when half of us including myself would be mourning her? My fiancé and I are trying to buy a house soon, and preferred to get married before hand. I don't want to be insensitive or disrespectful, but I also want to get the whole wedding thing over with because it has stressed me out. Thank you for any input you have.
