Huh..... I thought I started a discussion but now I can't find it anywhere! Weird.
So anyway.
Basically, I'm wondering what factors you considered and how you came to your budget and guest list. FI and I have to go with either a really big (160-190 guests; I don't remember the exact number) or extremely intimate destination wedding/elopement. This is because of our family size. With just our immediate families of aunts, uncles, and first cousins, plus enough extremely close friends to fill a small bridal party and that's it, we're looking at that larger number of close to 200 guests. This is even including if we cut out younger kids outside the bridal party. If we do an elopement or intimate destination wedding, we'd be looking at around 25, and maybe 7 or so of those would be kids. (We're thinking the intimate wedding option at Disney, plus the kids are young and there is parental travel involved, so of course they're invited. This option would be parents, siblings+their immediate families, plus a friend or two for a tiny bridal party.)
We have brainstorms that we like or love for both ends of the spectrum, but my main issue is cutting an already-strict guest list to fit an already small budget. We want our families there and would love to pay for them, but we have a strict budget, which I know is not the most realistic for what we'd need. (Huge families, lots of out-of-towners traveling across the state which makes "cake and punch" out of the question, etc.) I do also like the idea of the intimate destination wedding, planned for us for a set budget.
Did you want a big wedding with family and friends but then do something more intimate? Did you regret it? What are your experiences and stories with things like this?