GL- Poly couple/threesome

Ugh, polys! That's a hard one. However, if they are all living together then I personally would. Making him choose between the two would be awkward. I also never showed up to an event with both of my metamours...

Yes. You should invite them as a social unit.

If you're not 100% sure on how to address their invitation, don't be afraid to ask them. They'll appreciate your attempt at being understanding.

I would at least extend the invite to all of them and let them decide on how they want to do it. Personally, I would consider all three a social unit.

Also La Grossera made a great point, if you are unsure of how to address the invite definitely ask! They most likely will appreciate it

Inviting all 3 was kind of my thought too. Idk why it hadn't even crossed my mind till today. They're obviously pretty super laid back people, I'll just shoot him a message and ask what he prefers. I'm sure no one would mind clarifying that for me.

Invite them all as a social unit.

Omg, I would have never thought about this! Ya I say invite all 3, they will feel respected inviting all of them.

Invite all 3

So I messaged him. His response - "Ya, just send it addressed to me and we'll figure out if one or both are coming if that's ok with you. I'm not sure how we'll do that because we normally don't all get invited to family events. Thanks for checking, I know people don't get it and are really insensitive and judgmental towards our lifestyle."

I'm glad you messaged and asked him. It sounds like he really appreciated it!

I'm glad you reached out - sounds like you did the right thing! And definitely continue to budget for all three of them attending.

Kudos to you for reaching out! Sounds like they really appreciated it!

I've never actually thought about this. It sounds like you responded perfectly!

Right? I would have never thought about it at all if not for him. I know there are plenty of other people who have friends or who are poly, and hopefully it will jog someone else's thoughts on how to address them too. I couldn't imagine him not being part of our day, so I'll just plan a "plus two" haha. (I won't be addressing it that way, it just made me lol)

Sounds like you handled this perfectly, and it's a great post bc I definitely would not have known what to do!

I guess if you wanted you could put Mr and Mrs Blank and family (she would be close to family, I suppose) or Mr and Mrs Blank and Sally Law. Sometimes poly couples don't even want to go out with the 3 or 4 or whatever of them... a friend of mine said it drew attention to something that makes people uncomfortable so both of her relationships were separate, separate dates, alternating events etc

I would address it as Mr. & Mrs. John & Jane Smith & Ms. Sally Fields

Well done for handling it well, they'll really have appreciated it! Maybe to be on the safe side address it to "John, Betty and Grace" - even if you've gone more formal for everyone else it could be a nightmare with surnames and titles!

I would do first names too.