Give dj certain music to play?

My DJ is providing us with a document that has questions we need to answer such as what songs we want during the ceremony, what songs have to be played at the reception, what songs cannot be played, what genre we like/don't like etc.

We picked our special event songs. He also asked for a must play and do not play list. Other than that, picking music was his job.

Same situation as Caytlyn— we filled out a document for our DJ that gave details of our wedding, special dance songs, names of our wedding party, etc. We had an initial in-person meeting with him about a month before the wedding where he helped us build out our timeline, got to know us and get a feel for the vibe we wanted our wedding to have, and just music selections. We had one last phone meeting a week or two before the wedding.


Sent him a list of must play music (as well as do not play)— we probably had a total of 5 songs we absolutely wanted played, 2 do not play, and like 5 songs that we’d liked played but not a big deal. He just chose the other songs based on our likes/dislikes notes and reading the crowd. He did super well. Our dance floor was never empty and guests raved about the DJ.

We didn’t know our dj, we picked some special songs and requests, as well as a few do not plays. our dj could read the room and pick songs to create an atmosphere. Most djs won’t let you pick the full mix, but I wouldn’t want that anyway. Part of what they do is to create a vibe that I know I can’t create myself.

Our DJ also gave us a worksheet to list off names of bridal party/parents, important songs for the particular events such as cake cutting, entrances, etc., a do not play list, a must play list, an option for the instructional dances we either do/don’t want played (like cotton eyed joe and Cha cha slide), and dedication songs. He also allows us to pick the style of music we want for when guests are entering the ceremony space, for the cocktail hour, then things like what to play while people are eating. He told us he has a pre-made playlist for the background music events but we can customize that as well. We didn’t know him prior, just met for an initial consultation and he will meet with us again a few times prior to the wedding.

Most djs are strangers that you hire like any other business. Unless you plan parties where djs are used nearly everytime, most people don't know the vendors.

The dj will ask if you have must-play and do-not-play songs. Other than that, they are trained to read the crowd and what they respond to.

We met with her once (and had attended a wedding which she DJ'd), as well as kept in email correspondence with her.

We did put together a playlist, of sorts, and discussed what we liked, what we didn't want to hear at all, and our special songs. She took this information and put together a bunch of stuff we *knew* we liked, and stuff we hadn't thought of, didn't know about, or didn't remember.

Some people really love to control every song that gets played, some people don't care at all, and lots of people are somewhere in between.

Talk to your DJ. They likely have a lot of guidance for you!

Our DJ Has An Online Portal Where We Can Choose What Songs We Want Played. If We Don't Have Enough To Fill The Entire Night He Will Add His Own But Only Within Our Wanted Genre.

We interviewed DJs when shopping for vendors and did not know our DJ before wedding planning. The only songs we gave them were the special songs (ceremony processional/recessional, spotlight dances, etc.) Otherwise, we left music choices up to them. They had Must Play/Do Not Play lists as options, but we didn't add anything onto them. There weren't really any songs either of us could think of that would be event ruining. The DJ knew to play edited versions because there were children and he knew our music taste because we met with him twice during the process. I feel like the main reason to hire a DJ is their ability to read the room and play whatever music they think fits the mood. We paid that money to specifically avoid having to decide what music to play all night.

No, we did not know our DJ until we started planning. Once we booked, they sent us paperwork to fill out which included song choices.

Like many other brides on here I was also provided a form from my DJ that had questions on it. They had a dont not okay area for song you don’t want. Asked for 15 songs that me and my fiancé liked. Asked what songs to use for ceremony etc.

View Quoted Comment My DJ is doing the same which is great and convenient.